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I notice in scenarios with significant age gaps between couples, especially younger women with older men, it's automatically assumed the younger person is hotter, without any extra explanation. If a guy who's 38 asks if he should get involved with his son's 24-year-old babysitter (true story), the general response is yes because he's "lucky" to score someone so young (i.e younger=better regardless of what the person actually looks like). I've certainly seen real live scenarios in which the younger woman (or man) wasn't what most people would consider "hot." I guess beauty is in the eye of the beholder....
Why do people assume, that dating/marrying someone significantly younger (of legal age and 10+ years apart) is an automatic plus, regardless of what the parties look like? I might be in the minority, but I don't think having a spouse 15 years your junior makes someone automatically "lucky" the way someone else who's married to a former model (that's their age and still attractive) would be. It just means you found someone that happens to be younger than you are.
Not everyone is attractive when they're young. But if you're not attractive when you're young, you're certainly not going to be attractive when you're old and wrinkly.
I think what people are trying to say is the young person has potential to be attractive, regardless of whether or not they actually are. The 38 year old in your example is young enough that he might still be attractive.
But if the man is 65, he's not going to be attractive, no matter how attractive he once was during his younger days. The 24 year old at least has a chance of being attractive.
And if the young person is attractive, they likely have more time left of being attractive compared to an older attractive person. Example: even if a 40 year old model is aging well, she might look old 10 years later at 50. But if a 24 year old is attractive, she has a high chance of still being attractive 10 years later at 34.
Last edited by city_data91; 08-16-2010 at 10:03 PM..
I said as the ONLY criteria. First of all, 10 years younger than you is 9 if I recall, so your frame of reference is... well, illegal.
I never said I was attracted to people 10 years younger than me.
I am 19 so my peers are the same young women that older men are attracted to. When I'm old, I will probably be attracted to them too. Nothing illegal about that. Playboy is full of 19 year olds.
I never said I was attracted to people 10 years younger than me.
I am 19 so my peers are the same young women that older men are attracted to. When I'm old, I will probably be attracted to them too. Nothing illegal about that. Playboy is full of 19 year olds.
The whole point of this thread is about younger equalling better. Ergo... younger than you is illegal. It's not about being attracted to your peers.
Being attracted to younger, for the mere sake of younger, IS shallow.
I'm a 43 year old woman, who has been propositioned, asked out, and what have you by 23 year old males (give and take years). For some, the mere fact that they are young is reason enough to date them. I hold that is incredibly shallow. There is absolutely nothing I have in common with a 23 year old male, and nothing he can meet me in as an equal, and nothing he can offer me (ahem...), no matter how mature he is for his age.
It would be shallow of me to put him on my arm as a status symbol. I have status on my own. And anyone who thinks they can gain status by what hangs from their arm is deceiving themselves in a dangerous way.
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I bet they're well under 26, too!
