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My late wife and I were among the first successful online match-ups. We met in '92 on a writers' board, before the days of web browsers, chat rooms and online photos, so we only had each others' words to go by. It was attraction at first reading, although neither of us thought we'd actually get together since we lived 2000 miles apart.
She was a highly gifted writer with a long list of nationally published poems and had edited professional and medical journals for years. I was also a professional writer, a retired newspaper editor and at the time edited and published newsletters for a couple Fortune 500 companies and was just getting into script writing. Our emails were pages long and flew back and forth several times each day. After a month we compiled our emails and discovered that it took more than a ream of paper to print them. So yes, it was her writing that attracted me to her and my writing that attracted her to me. We were a perfect match on paper and in real life.
After her death I met several other women online. While I was and continue to be attracted to women with a gift for writing, it's only an attraction -- like when I see a beautiful woman in the grocery store. I look and admire, then continue on. Good writing is a sign of intelligence, and I'm attracted to intelligent women. I can't help it. Some guys like big boobs; I like a big brain.
My "new" wife (we've been together for 11 years), struggles with her writing. Spelling, grammar and punctuation are not her strong points. Perhaps I was attracted to her because I didn't want someone who compared to my late wife. Or maybe it was just because she was so damned cute. But she does have a quick wit (another sure sign of intelligence), and her writing reflects that.
No, it is not. There are several posters on this forum that write pretty good, but their ideas are borderline retarded. Good writing comes from the practice and mastery. Its relationship with intelligence is minimal. (English in this case)
However, I do think having a quick wit is one sure sign of intelligence.
I had just posted a message on another site contrasting the semi-literate comments of women cheating on their hubbies to the well written comments of those men intelligent enough to understand the risks of marriage today.
It is all about who you are comparing, I suppose.
I imagine that many of the really bad posts would likely short out a spelling and grammar checker.
The absolutely worst email I ever saw, was at work was from a young female - a recent hire. I almost went to her supervisor to recommend remedial training! This is the scary aspect of this. What happens after we retire?
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