Is this a form of stalking? (girl, feelings, different, stalker)
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If this is the guy I'm thinking of from previous posts from you, then the two of you until *very* recently talked frequently...right? You want to break off the friendship, but you haven't actually told him that, so he's just acting as he would if you were friends. He hasn't changed, from what I can gather. So no. Not stalking at all.
Now if you were to actually come out and tell him you don't want to be friends anymore (this is the guy who kissed you on the lips, right?), he would have the opportunity not to call. The way things are now, he's probably just confused and wondering what changed.
That's true but a lot of times there are warning signs that someone could turn into a stalker and while it may not be terrifying at that point, it's important not to ignore red flags. If one can recognize them and take precautionary steps ahead of time, they might be able to avoid it reaching a terrifying point. Persistent calling, asking where you are, what you're doing and not getting the obvious hints you're putting across that you don't want to hear from him any more could be an early warning sign. As Thursday says, the OP needs to firmly but gently tell him to stop calling. If it continues after that, I would start by telling my friends and family what is going on and change my phone numbers (since he only seems to be contacting her by phone at the moment). If things escalate instead of ceasing, contact the police and since he lives so close, consider moving. Maybe he's just an annoying guy and she hasn't been clear enough with him - but it can't hurt to be prepared for worse.
Yes, that is certainly good advice; however, I'm going by the OP's post history, here.
The first step if she really wants nothing to do with this guy, is to tell him she wants absolutely no contact - no phone calls, no texts, no emails, no letters - nothing. Agreed.
why did you tell him your work schedule??You are making yourself too accessable to him. get call display, and if he calls don't answer, hopefully he'll get the message, and if he starts calling you at work, you have reason to be concerned.
I'd be curious to hear his side of the story just to make sure there aren't any missing details.
He's persistent when he wants something like money. When I see him, he kisses n gives me a tight hug. I try break off the friendship but he's not taking a no for an answer. Then I told him if he wanted money from me, we have to start going out and he agreed. I told him to keep his word or Im done. Yes, he has called when Im at work
He's persistent when he wants something like money. When I see him, he kisses n gives me a tight hug. I try break off the friendship but he's not taking a no for an answer. Then I told him if he wanted money from me, we have to start going out and he agreed. I told him to keep his word or Im done. Yes, he has called when Im at work
So after you try to break off the friendship, you offer to loan him money if you two start dating?
He's persistent when he wants something like money. When I see him, he kisses n gives me a tight hug. I try break off the friendship but he's not taking a no for an answer. Then I told him if he wanted money from me, we have to start going out and he agreed. I told him to keep his word or Im done. Yes, he has called when Im at work
Ok, he's not stalking you in any sense of the word. He's using you, and you're using him. Seriously, you told him if he wants money he has to go out with you?!
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