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By a frugal lifestyle, I don't mean a guy who is rather cheap during dates and stuff..
But a guy who doesn't spend much money on any material possessions other than the absolute necessities (shelter, a basic car, basic furniture, etc.) This guy doesn't blow off his hard earned $$$ on material possessions that don't directly add any value to the relationship and that he has no real need for but everyone else has like big screen TVs, the newest cars, designer furniture, etc.
My yearly salary is easily 5-8 times the net value of all of my material possessions (including my Honda Civic that I've been driving for over a decade ever since receiving it for my 16th birthday and my 3 computers.)
When my current GF and I started dating, she was a bit surprised I could afford to take her to somewhere semi-fancy. I'm very frugal when it comes to my own life but not when I'm spending time with her.
I think it's fine to save money for luxury items you wouldn't normally buy there is a definitely very thin line between being frugal and being cheap. If you are reusing your chinese food boxes because you don't want to buy plastic one for storage, that's just being cheap. If you're using iron-on's for your pants because they ripped and you don't want to buy new ones that's being cheap. If you're shopping around for the best value when buying new clothes, shoes, cars, etc... that's being smart.
I'd rather be with someone who is smart with their money but who also knows how to have fun. A guy I was talking to the other day told me about a restaurant, it's local to where I live, I've not been there so I asked about the food, price, etc.. He said it was kind of expensive. So, I asked him what he felt was expensive, he said $22 for a dinner meal... To me? That's about averate and what I'd expect to pay if I'm going out for a nice dinner at a more upper class restaurant, in fact I found it to be cheaper than I'd expected. But this guy LOOKS like he lives very frugally. So, for me as far as dating goes. I don't make a lot of money, if you want to ask me on a date that's fine but make it a date, I don't want to see coupons on the table and I don't want to do the two for $20 at Applebees LOL
And please note, I just became single again, have not gone on any dates - but before when I was single, I would say yes to a date but always drive myself, always bring enough money for MY own portion of the meal - not presuming anything at all and JUST in case the dude turns out to be a dud.
I have to be frugal because I don't make a lot of money but I'm not a cheap a$$ about it LOL
So thats why I am not the Ladies man. I am cheap. I reuse the plastic fresh vegetables bags you get from buying the vegetable. I am constantly doing the math whether something is more economical and not just a means of status. I hate spending money for ostentatious and ultimately worthless frills. From reading the womens responses this is pure poison. If I have a coupon that saves me money why would I not use it?
Comfort is one of the items that is part of whether a product is worth buying. It is a gestalt. Take comfort or reliability out of the equation and than I will buy something as cheap as I can. I have zero concern to display wealth. I do like displaying quality and part of quality is afordability. To spend money foolishly (IMO) to attract women will never be my thing.
Too bad there are not very many frugal women out there.
Too bad there are not very many frugal women out there.
Matt, there are so many opps for you to meet likeminded women. They're everywhere--they're hanging around the produce aisles of Aldi. They're comparing the pants at Goodwill and garage sales are a mecca. They may need a man to help them not get ripped off trying to buy a used car. Are there still coupon fairs? Hang around the dumpsters--is there a pretty lady sniffing around there or one eyeing the goods on the curb in your neighborhood? Yes!
You've found her so you need to start planning the cheap honeymoon. May I suggest camping out in Oz for 3 months? It's a fabulous way to see the country and the wildlife, and there are many places there where you can camp for free and you can buy a used car while you're there. While you're camping you can cook your own meals and you won't spend any more money than you do at home.
I believe in living within your means and saving money. But I do know how and when to spend it and what I do buy will be quality goods. Quality above all but I do shop for the best price. If I buy a gift, it will be quality. Perhaps I got a 'deal' on the price but it will be a quality item.
Cheap trash is, well..., cheap trash. Why spend hard earned or saved money on junk? Stuff you will have to replace over and over.
I'm not that frugal with small ticket items like toilet paper. For example, it doesn't matter that much if I buy the $0.75 loaf of bread or the $1.6 loaf. Or the difference between $3.11/gal gas vs. $3.21/gal gas.
I'm extremely frugal with the big ticket items like cars, houses, furniture, plane tickets, TVs, etc. (and generally, I opt out unless it's really needed.)
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I think it's fine to save money for luxury items you wouldn't normally buy there is a definitely very thin line between being frugal and being cheap. If you are reusing your chinese food boxes because you don't want to buy plastic one for storage, that's just being cheap. If you're using iron-on's for your pants because they ripped and you don't want to buy new ones that's being cheap. If you're shopping around for the best value when buying new clothes, shoes, cars, etc... that's being smart.
I'd rather be with someone who is smart with their money but who also knows how to have fun. A guy I was talking to the other day told me about a restaurant, it's local to where I live, I've not been there so I asked about the food, price, etc.. He said it was kind of expensive. So, I asked him what he felt was expensive, he said $22 for a dinner meal... To me? That's about averate and what I'd expect to pay if I'm going out for a nice dinner at a more upper class restaurant, in fact I found it to be cheaper than I'd expected. But this guy LOOKS like he lives very frugally. So, for me as far as dating goes. I don't make a lot of money, if you want to ask me on a date that's fine but make it a date, I don't want to see coupons on the table and I don't want to do the two for $20 at Applebees LOL
And please note, I just became single again, have not gone on any dates - but before when I was single, I would say yes to a date but always drive myself, always bring enough money for MY own portion of the meal - not presuming anything at all and JUST in case the dude turns out to be a dud.
I have to be frugal because I don't make a lot of money but I'm not a cheap a$$ about it LOL
I think it's fine to save money for luxury items you wouldn't normally buy there is a definitely very thin line between being frugal and being cheap. If you are reusing your chinese food boxes because you don't want to buy plastic one for storage, that's just being cheap.
What if I re-use the cardboard ones because I'm concerned about the use of plastics, think it is almost always better to re-use, and save money as well?
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If you're using iron-on's for your pants because they ripped and you don't want to buy new ones that's being cheap.
What if I sew in patches that were made from another pair of pants that I deemed 'unsalvageable'?
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If you're shopping around for the best value when buying new clothes, shoes, cars, etc... that's being smart.
What if I just don't buy those things? I've bought one item of clothing this year (a $4.?? pair of pants from good will) other than new socks and undies. Haven't bought shoes nor a car.
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[i][color=#006400]I'd rather be with someone who is smart with their money but who also knows how to have fun.
You don't have to spend money to have fun.
But, throwing down $1000 bucks for a plane ticket to Greece so I could work on a volunteer project working to protect sea turtles was fun.
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So, for me as far as dating goes. I don't make a lot of money, if you want to ask me on a date that's fine but make it a date, I don't want to see coupons on the table and I don't want to do the two for $20 at Applebees LOL
What's wrong with a coupon? Isn't it dumb to pay more than you need for a meal? Isn't it hypocritical to say that it's smart to shop around for a good price on clothes but it's not ok to get a good deal on a dinner?
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You've found her so you need to start planning the cheap honeymoon. May I suggest camping out in Oz for 3 months? It's a fabulous way to see the country and the wildlife, and there are many places there where you can camp for free and you can buy a used car while you're there. While you're camping you can cook your own meals and you won't spend any more money than you do at home.
Now that sounds like a Adventure rather than simple travel. That would be a blast. It is like taking a cruise on a passenger sailboat instead of a floating Resort Hotel that most modern cruise ships are. Travel, IMO, should be about seeing and experiencing things you can not do at home. Just like eating out should be the same. Why pay for a meal when you cook it better than the restaurant does?
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So thats why I am not the Ladies man. I am cheap. I reuse the plastic fresh vegetables bags you get from buying the vegetable. I am constantly doing the math whether something is more economical and not just a means of status. I hate spending money for ostentatious and ultimately worthless frills. From reading the womens responses this is pure poison. If I have a coupon that saves me money why would I not use it?
May I suggest camping out in Oz for 3 months? It's a fabulous way to see the country and the wildlife, and there are many places there where you can camp for free and you can buy a used car while you're there. While you're camping you can cook your own meals and you won't spend any more money than you do at home. 
