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Old 01-14-2011, 10:48 AM
 
Location: earth?
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Don't think this won't be a problem . . . you have two red flags: He is not all that interested in you, sexually (which could mean he is not attracted or has some personal problem) and he minimizes your feelings. Not a good prospect for a long term relationship. Adios amigo!
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Old 01-14-2011, 10:52 AM
 
Location: Whiteville Tennessee
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If the second guy doesn't work out you can strip for me anytime and I'll be all over you like white on rice! Just saying.
Hell yea! That crap about "you surprised me when you stripped for me" is just BS! Ladies have surprised me many times but i'll be damned if it EVER stopped Mr. Johnson from springing up and into action! I'm sorry but I think this guy is wearing pink panties if ya know what I mean!
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Old 01-14-2011, 11:17 AM
 
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I am roughly the same age as the OP and have been dating men aged 35-50 for the past 5 years. Total red flags that he not only doesn't want to have sex, but that he seems turned off by the very idea of it. I think he either has peformance or mental issues regarding sex.

Don't waste your time.
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Old 01-14-2011, 11:32 AM
 
Location: NYC
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Hell yea! That crap about "you surprised me when you stripped for me" is just BS! Ladies have surprised me many times but i'll be damned if it EVER stopped Mr. Johnson from springing up and into action! I'm sorry but I think this guy is wearing pink panties if ya know what I mean!
So you will have sex with any woman who takes off her clothes for you? No physical standards whatsoever?
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Old 01-14-2011, 11:39 AM
 
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Hell yea! That crap about "you surprised me when you stripped for me" is just BS! Ladies have surprised me many times but i'll be damned if it EVER stopped Mr. Johnson from springing up and into action! I'm sorry but I think this guy is wearing pink panties if ya know what I mean!
So a guy that has certain personal morals and beliefs and decides to respect them is suddenly seen as a pansy, less of a man, etc.?
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Old 01-14-2011, 12:06 PM
 
Location: Hawaii
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So many people want sex. That makes it hard for people that don't want sex to find a compatible match.
Ok.. but that doesn't mean they should try relationships with sexual people and then blame the sexual person for not being compatible with them...

Just like any other life choice. "But it's really hard to find another compatible rastafarian! or catholic! or raw foods devotee!" (not sure what that's called) that doesn't mean any of those people should go for a satanist then get mad that the person doesnt "respect them" by feeling the same way they do.

Only seriously date people who's lifestyle you can live with. Might be hard, but anything else doesn't really make sense and just creates problems.
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Old 01-14-2011, 12:25 PM
 
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Hell yea! That crap about "you surprised me when you stripped for me" is just BS! Ladies have surprised me many times but i'll be damned if it EVER stopped Mr. Johnson from springing up and into action! I'm sorry but I think this guy is wearing pink panties if ya know what I mean!
what does she look like? were talking sex here so YES it does matter
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Old 01-14-2011, 03:18 PM
 
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So a guy that has certain personal morals and beliefs and decides to respect them is suddenly seen as a pansy, less of a man, etc.?
No, I would expect a guy who abstained because of those reasons to be able to articulate them rather than making his woman feel sexually rejected. This guy seems utterly turned off by the very idea of physical intimacy ("what are you DOING???"). A very different thing wouldn't you agree?
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Old 01-14-2011, 03:25 PM
 
Location: NYC
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No, I would expect a guy who abstained because of those reasons to be able to articulate them rather than making his woman feel sexually rejected. This guy seems utterly turned off by the very idea of physical intimacy ("what are you DOING???"). A very different thing wouldn't you agree?
I don't see where she asked him about his attitudes about sex, nor asked him how he feels about her sexually speaking. I only see that she presented her vagina one night and he passed. This isn't a teen we're talking about - she is 47 years old, if she wants to know an answer, she should be mature enough to ask the question.
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Old 01-18-2011, 02:06 PM
 
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I don't see where she asked him about his attitudes about sex, nor asked him how he feels about her sexually speaking. I only see that she presented her vagina one night and he passed. This isn't a teen we're talking about - she is 47 years old, if she wants to know an answer, she should be mature enough to ask the question.
Women even at that age may still rely on sending signals, little indirect cute messages, signs, clues, hints, etc. some women just don't grow up I guess.
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