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Going back to my teens and maybe early 20's it use to disturb me and I was very self concious and scared of rejection. Now I have a oh well that sucks but move on attitude. Because I know there are other women out there that will gel with me.
I once dated a guy ... After 2 dates he never called me again... I follow him around, keyed his car and stalked his cat...jk I txt him and after one day of no answer I deleted his #
I enjoy getting rejected. This does not bother me. There are lot of women for me to pick from. Its better then not doing anything.
The only rejected is not even trying. Rejections mostly applies to men though.
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Originally Posted by sydney1987
It's very hard to not take it personally when someone you invest time/energy/interest in just blatantly doesn't care or feel the same way. The signs are very obvious and apparent.
How is it possible to not to hate* the fact that someone has viewed you, deemed you unacceptable/ saw negative qualities in you, and decided to brush your interest aside?
I really like myself. But I have to say, sometimes it really sucks. And I wonder, what does it take to make a good impression on this guy? It can be quite frustrating. I know it's not the end of the world but it does suck to put yourself out there and hang your neck out like that... and get rebuffed.
*typo as heart. No I don't heart that at all. haha
But anyways - rejection sucks. Takes a toll on my fragile ego.
Economist, you are right. It usually doesn't have to do with the girl at all. But sometimes couldn't it be that I wasn't attractive enough, smart enough, charming enough, alluring enough.... didn't make him feel good enough... didn't say the right things?
I'm sure some guys have specific reasons why they didn't go out with a specific girl. If I were that girl (or vice versa, guy being rejected)... I'm just wondering how best to deal. When there are specific reasons. When it is personal.
You don't want to talk about it, so you posted about it publicly and asked for advice about how to handle it?
You're never going to know for certain whether there was something you could have done differently that would have changed his mind. The only reason to stew about it is to punish yourself for his not being interested enough. And that's really pointless; you don't gain from doing it, and neither does anything else.
The real question is, why are you trying to make his rejecting you your fault? Even after acknowledging that men usually reject women for reasons that have absolutely nothing to do with the women, you're still trying to make it your fault that you were rejected. What's up with that??
Just because one person rejected you doesn't mean all people will. Its strange that you say you have a fragile ego. A while ago you were complaining that too many men hit on you? Maybe you only like men that dont like you back? Anyways I think you should take it easy and not pin yourself worth on whats going on relationship wise.
The real question is, why are you trying to make his rejecting you your fault? Even after acknowledging that men usually reject women for reasons that have absolutely nothing to do with the women, you're still trying to make it your fault that you were rejected. What's up with that??
I don't care, because I figure we're just not a good match and I wouldn't want to be with someone who doesn't want to be with me. The only thing that bothers me is if someone leads me on when they have no intention of following through. That's a nasty form of dishonesty, and I'd be angry and upset (briefly) if someone did that to me.
Unquestionably, yes, rejection can indeed be very hurtful. I have often sometimes wondered, what exactly about it was that the woman was rejecting in particular. Sure, they said things like "no chemistry", "no connection", "LJBF", etc. -- but I often wondered what exactly was *triggering* them, to say those things
Having said that, I'm a guy...seems to me that the girls / ladies tend to be ones who do quite a bit of the "rejecting", not themselves being "rejected", though lol
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Originally Posted by sydney1987
It's very hard to not take it personally when someone you invest time/energy/interest in just blatantly doesn't care or feel the same way. The signs are very obvious and apparent.
How is it possible to not to hate* the fact that someone has viewed you, deemed you unacceptable/ saw negative qualities in you, and decided to brush your interest aside?
I really like myself. But I have to say, sometimes it really sucks. And I wonder, what does it take to make a good impression on this guy? It can be quite frustrating. I know it's not the end of the world but it does suck to put yourself out there and hang your neck out like that... and get rebuffed.
*typo as heart. No I don't heart that at all. haha
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I txt him and after one day of no answer I deleted his #
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