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I suspect the difference in how we define single is based upon our views of marriage. I suspect those who believe that marriage is "just a piece of paper" refer to anyone who isn't in a relationship of any kind as being "single." And then, those who view marriage as a serious commitment unmatched by mere cohabitation say "you are either married or single" without shades of gray.
I can see it that way. My husband's aunt lived with a man for, I don’t know, 20 years before she passed away. They weren't legally married but everybody regarded them as such. I can understand common law marriages, or that kind of long-term commitment, as not being single. I guess it would depend on the context. I was thinking of it more from a legal standpoint, which is pretty black and white, but socially there is more flexibility.
Ok, I just read through the whole thread. Some people think that since you have kids you're not single. I still consider myself single even though I have kids. Single mom. No SO, no bf, no husband, no seeing anyone...I'm still single.
Ok, I just read through the whole thread. Some people think that since you have kids you're not single. I still consider myself single even though I have kids. Single mom. No SO, no bf, no husband, no seeing anyone...I'm still single.
It seems that for many people today Single covers a lot of ground. Like the New York Congressman that quit yesterday, Single appears to be a code word for wanting sex.
Can you call yourself Single if You are unhappily married, no kids?
Formerly married, 1-3 kids but they are with the other spouse?
Married with a lover on the side but eager to have a few more?
In a long term relationship but not really serious?
Never married but have more kids than you can keep track of the Daddies?
What exactly is the real meaning of being Single to you?
In this day and age of "just do what you want" that's actually a good topic. Single means not married, not separated, no boyfriend/girlfriend, no long term friends with benefits, not still in love with someone else, just looking around. Any of the above gets the X/DO NOT CALL/NOT INTERESTED SIGN, with the QUICKNESS!
Ok, I just read through the whole thread. Some people think that since you have kids you're not single. I still consider myself single even though I have kids. Single mom. No SO, no bf, no husband, no seeing anyone...I'm still single.
As you stated in your post, you are a single mom . A modified single (child must be living with you and not of adult age). Why do you think if you define yourself with just the word single it is better? This is not to say there is anything bad about doing so. I am just curious on why the insistence on single status. *puzzled*
I'm not married, but I've been in an exclusive, cohabiting relationship with the same guy since '07. I don't consider myself "a single lady." I do consider myself "unmarried."
On forms that ask "single" v. "married," I check single. Socially, I don't consider myself single. When I have to list SO on forms, and it asks for relationship, I usually put "domestic partner." His name is unambiguously male, so nobody assumes that I'm in a same-sex relationship (the usual context of "domestic partner), not that it matters.
I still feel "attached" even though my husband passed away earlier this year. Technically I would have to describe myself as "single" but I don't feel "totally single" quite yet even though I live alone now...It takes time to adjust and work through "grief" and "loss."....Years ago when I was a single parent I felt "single" even though I had kids...One day I may be ready to view myself as "single" and "available" again but right now I don't feel that way yet. I'm still getting over "losing" my best friend and husband of 24 years.
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