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Wow. Honestly I would never think of not allowing my fiance to look in my purse without my "permission." My stuff is his stuff, and vice versa...that's just the way we've always been. I hate silly (in my opinion, no judging) boundaries like that. I think the scariest thing that lerks in my bag is a tampon or two.
Both off limits unless there's either specific permission or an explicit understanding that it's OK.
I'm sorry but that's not me and my husband...
To me it's a trust issue. I trust him, he trusts me. I don't make a habit of going thru it but if I need to find something like the health insurance card or a certain credit card, I will go look for it in his wallet...same with him.
Altho he swears there are alligators in MY purse and usually brings mine to me to dig for stuff. He says mine bites him. Stuff has a bad habit of hiding in the bottom of my purse.
And if I need money, I ask...I don't just take it. We seldom keep much money on us.
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On the other hand, when I'm doing laundry and I'm emptying out pockets and see a few bucks, it's fair game in my book.
THAT usually happened with the daughter, not my husband. Can't tell you how much SHE lost. Liz
Location: Phoenix...until next week, then Maryland...tick tock tick tock
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Well, I mentioned this in the original thread...but I sorta feel like my purse is mine & the BF's wallet is his. It's not that I have anything to hide, just that I have a way I have things in my purse & my BF would not leave things the way he found them! That & even tho I don't have anything to hide from him, I kinda don't like my stuff pawed through by someone else. Dunno why, just a personal thing, I guess.
...& taking money without asking is just not cool. If I left money in my wallet, I expect it to be there when I need to use it. Ask me & I'll share, but just help yourself & I'll be pissed ...true emergencies excluded.
I don't think either of us have anything to hide, but we don't go through each other's purse/wallets. But if he needs something and it's in my purse or vice versa, neither of us has a problem with that
I don't know, there's just something "sneaky" about going into other people's stuff. Maybe it was b'c of all those years as a kid I'd go into my parents' wallet/purses to steal some change for candy.
There's nothing to hide but it's just courtesy to say you're going into somebody else's stuff, IMO.
I have no problem with him going into my wallet/handbag and he is perfectly happy for me to go into his wallet/ briefcase. We tell each other when we have done it, matter of fact but what is the big deal ?
We also share an email address and only have one cell between us ( he has one for work but when we are together we only have one "personal" cell phone).
I trust him 100% and he trusts me 100%. We too "sneak" money in each others wallets if we notice a lack of cash and we leave each other little notes there too.
I have nothing in either my wallet or handbag I would mind him seeing so why should I be bothered.
If he has bought me a present and put it in his briefcase he will tell me to stay away from it until he has safely hidden it away but that's about it !
I have no problem with him going into my wallet/handbag and he is perfectly happy for me to go into his wallet/ briefcase. We tell each other when we have done it, matter of fact but what is the big deal ?
We also share an email address and only have one cell between us ( he has one for work but when we are together we only have one "personal" cell phone).
I trust him 100% and he trusts me 100%. We too "sneak" money in each others wallets if we notice a lack of cash and we leave each other little notes there too.
I have nothing in either my wallet or handbag I would mind him seeing so why should I be bothered.
If he has bought me a present and put it in his briefcase he will tell me to stay away from it until he has safely hidden it away but that's about it !
im noticing a trend here, ive been missing out on,,wtf??(i miss everything)
a woman placing money inside a mans wallet...my god ive thought ive heard it all.
i think this is awesome!!!!
Wow! I've still never opened a man's wallet to insert surprise cash. I guess I would leave the cash under his keys or on top of his wallet where he would find it in the morning.
Is this really a trust/insecure or respect for others personal private things issue?
im noticing a trend here, ive been missing out on,,wtf??(i miss everything)
a woman placing money inside a mans wallet...my god ive thought ive heard it all.
i think this is awesome!!!!
Not only that but I loathe shopping, have no interest in TV soaps, girly stuff, clothes, I don't talk much ( a lot less than him), I hate "gossip", I don't want kids and never coo over babies either . I also cannot stay on the phone longer than a few seconds as I hate phoning people !
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Stuff has a bad habit of hiding in the bottom of my purse. 
That & even tho I don't have anything to hide from him, I kinda don't like my stuff pawed through by someone else. Dunno why, just a personal thing, I guess.
...true emergencies excluded.
