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What are you even saying here? Pinned who down on what? It makes no sense.
Any man from the model looking doctor to the fat, short, bald, poor man can/could reject any woman with kids. It hurts worse when a fat bald guy does it.
A saint I am not. A 10 I am not. My original question was based entirely on the stereotypes of singe mothers. With which I do not fall into the stereotype of single mothers. Apparently this is a VERY heated topic!
I deal with individuals not stereotypes. Stereotypes might be useful with establishing certain parameters however about an individual. You have to work with the information you got and than revise it as new information becomes available.
In your case the information is, unlike the typical unwed young mother stereotype, you're a woman that made a deliberate decision to have kids while in a very shaky marriage. Thus you will still contribute to the reasons that a negative stereotype exists for other single mothers. Just not in the standard way for doing so. Any guy that comes across you had better be cautious. Not nice sorry, but unless there is ameliorating evidence presented, there you go.
I deal with individuals not stereotypes. Stereotypes might be useful with establishing certain parameters however about an individual. You have to work with the information you got and than revise it as new information becomes available.
In your case the information is, unlike the typical unwed young mother stereotype, you're a woman that made a deliberate decision to have kids while in a very shaky marriage. Thus you will still contribute to the reasons that a negative stereotype exists for other single mothers. Just not in the standard way for doing so. Any guy that comes across you had better be cautious. Not nice sorry, but unless there is ameliorating evidence presented, there you go.
+100. You said it better than any of us could ever have.
I deal with individuals not stereotypes. Stereotypes might be useful with establishing certain parameters however about an individual. You have to work with the information you got and than revise it as new information becomes available.
In your case the information is, unlike the typical unwed young mother stereotype, you're a woman that made a deliberate decision to have kids while in a very shaky marriage. Thus you will still contribute to the reasons that a negative stereotype exists for other single mothers. Just not in the standard way for doing so. Any guy that comes across you had better be cautious. Not nice sorry, but unless there is ameliorating evidence presented, there you go.
You also have good eyes Matt. I never needed my glasses. I read people!
She was in a 4 year relationship with the father of her children and his mental illness forced her to break up with him (probably for the benefit of her children as well as for her).
AND, she is not even interested in dating right now (good for her, her kids are too young and need her full attention).
She was strictly expressing surprise and dismay at the things said on these threads about single moms by people like you.
I'm still confused about the mental illness bit. Where was it said that the ex had a mental illness?
Am I, a 26 year old, college educated, successful, hard working, attractive woman, destined to lower my standards and get stereotyped continuously just because I am a single mother?
Not trying to be mean or anything, but you are in competition with the late 20- early 30s year old college educated, successful, hard working, attractive women out there who do not have a child. I think it's realistic to accept that some men will be "out of your league" due to this fact. But at the same time, you probably wouldn't want to be with men like that anyways (not that there is something wrong with men who don't want to be tied to children that aren't biologically theirs - it is a valid choice).
So it probably will all work out for the best. The reality is that you are somewhat limited, but it's also not the end of the world by a far stretch.
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