This forum kind of left me depressed... (date, women, love)
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I am obsessed with pretty much all other portions of city-data.com, so how I never migrated into the relationships forum before is beyond me.
I'm a recently single mother (2 yr old twin boys). I was with their father for 4 years and after YEARS of wanting to leave, I finally got the courage. I was having high expectations of hopefully one day finding someone who would love and respect me. That was until I came across all of the topics on single moms in this forum. People have some pretty nasty things to say about single moms.
One thing in particular that depressed me was a kid who said that single moms had to lower their standards because they were desperate. So a 10 woman, who would normally date 10s, would be left to date 6s if she were a mom. Brutal. And then the whole stereotype of single moms looking for a replacement father/financial support. Is that REALLY what men think about single mothers?
Am I, a 26 year old, college educated, successful, hard working, attractive woman, destined to lower my standards and get stereotyped continuously just because I am a single mother?
dont lower your standards, but maybe your expectations. Men in your age group typically do not want to raise another man's kids, thats just the way it is
It may be brutal, but it's true. Your choices are limited for this reason because not everybody wants to deal with it. Other people's choices are limited for different reasons. C'est la vie.
dont lower your standards, but maybe your expectations. Men in your age group typically do not want to raise another man's kids, thats just the way it is
Am I, a 26 year old, college educated, successful, hard working, attractive woman, destined to lower my standards and get stereotyped continuously just because I am a single mother?
I guess that depends on whether or not you believe everything you read on the innarwebs.
If you lower your standards that is what you will get. Better to continue with your good life now that you disengaged the silly girl gear and shifted into the gettin real gear. Next, graduate to being a real woman and make having a quality relationship 3rd on your priority list ..... after a quality family life for your kids and keeping your financial boat afloat. Many, many kids of single parents do best when a new man is NOT in their world.
I am obsessed with pretty much all other portions of city-data.com, so how I never migrated into the relationships forum before is beyond me.
I'm a recently single mother (2 yr old twin boys). I was with their father for 4 years and after YEARS of wanting to leave, I finally got the courage. I was having high expectations of hopefully one day finding someone who would love and respect me. That was until I came across all of the topics on single moms in this forum. People have some pretty nasty things to say about single moms.
One thing in particular that depressed me was a kid who said that single moms had to lower their standards because they were desperate. So a 10 woman, who would normally date 10s, would be left to date 6s if she were a mom. Brutal. And then the whole stereotype of single moms looking for a replacement father/financial support. Is that REALLY what men think about single mothers?
Am I, a 26 year old, college educated, successful, hard working, attractive woman, destined to lower my standards and get stereotyped continuously just because I am a single mother?
Hmm, don't lower your standards, whatever they are, but the fact that you are out of a bad relationship shows that you had poor planning to begin with which made you get into such a relationship, what makes you think that any man who is willing to give you a chance doesn't feel that you might leave him next, I am not saying that it's your fault that you're out of a bad relationship, but how would any man take your word for granted.
Also, if you are a single mom, you might have to consider giving a chance to men that you wouldn't even have considered when you were younger, sorry but that's the way of the world, brutal, perhaps, but then that's how it is. If given a choice between a single young women with no kids and no strings attached and yourself, most eligible and qualified young men would go for the former, sorry, but that's the fact.
I am obsessed with pretty much all other portions of city-data.com, so how I never migrated into the relationships forum before is beyond me.
I'm a recently single mother (2 yr old twin boys). I was with their father for 4 years and after YEARS of wanting to leave, I finally got the courage. I was having high expectations of hopefully one day finding someone who would love and respect me. That was until I came across all of the topics on single moms in this forum. People have some pretty nasty things to say about single moms.
One thing in particular that depressed me was a kid who said that single moms had to lower their standards because they were desperate. So a 10 woman, who would normally date 10s, would be left to date 6s if she were a mom. Brutal. And then the whole stereotype of single moms looking for a replacement father/financial support. Is that REALLY what men think about single mothers?
Am I, a 26 year old, college educated, successful, hard working, attractive woman, destined to lower my standards and get stereotyped continuously just because I am a single mother?
Did you really just complain about being stereotyped while stereotyping guys about what they want?
There are millions of guys out there, odds are there is a good one for you out there. Good luck.
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