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well, I don't go to meat markets, I go to bookstores, sporting events, some singles events, and still I'm meeting men that don't want them or have had v's. It's frustrating! I wonder where the decent ones that want a kid are!!
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Originally Posted by lovesMountains
Quit meeting men in meat markets and you'll do a lot better.
thanks! I just wish I could meet the men that want kids! I date evvery now and then, but a few dates in, the subject will come up that he's had a v or doesn't want kids.
Maybe I need to move to another state?
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Originally Posted by Chowhound
I my life and in my interactions with men just about every single guy I've known as a buddy, said that they would like to have kids.
So I don't know why the OP is having a problem....
She's quite lovely, if its the one the same one I'm thinking of....
Like you have dedicated your life to not growing up
You're 19 going on 12, you have no idea what a relationship is, nor the gist of sharing with anyone on a deep level. Your thoughts are merely conjecture because you have no real understanding or experience of anything that remotely resembles adult behaviours.
You see other young men here entertaining the possibility that one day they would like marriage and children...THAT is normal.
So you're saying it's not normal if a young person doesn't want to get married or have kids?
Like I said, it's just a preference. How can a preference be not normal?
What about the 30+ year old posters that don't have kids nor do they want them? Are they not normal?
well, I don't go to meat markets, I go to bookstores, sporting events, some singles events, and still I'm meeting men that don't want them or have had v's. It's frustrating! I wonder where the decent ones that want a kid are!!
Could it be they want kids but not with you? Are they hoping for a NSA relationship because they already have a girlfriend? Could they be secretly married and hoping for a one-night stand... if you met a lot of guys and they don't want kids, chances are they are just looking to cheat on their spouse but not let you know that information because there aren't that many guys with that point of view... perhaps, they are too old... after a certain age, I wouldn't want to have kids.... I don't want a have kid to still be home when I retire!! Maybe they think they are so good-looking they are trying to sleep with as many girls as possible and don't want to be tied down... is that the kind of guy you been hunting?
something else that's frustrating to me is when I see people who clearly can't take of their kids properly, mistreat them, etc, and yet have one after the other, then there's me, outgoing, energetic, a nurturer, reasonebly good-looking, etc and I can't even get a bf much less a baby!
OK, got it. You don't want children and have responded thus to the thread. The repetitive editorializing is tedious in the extreme.
Way to miss the point. Me not wanting kids was just a small sentence in that post. The point of the post is how people should wait until they can support themselves before they have kids (if they want kids), yet a lot of people don't understand this so they have a baby before they can support themselves.
I don't purposefully seek these types of men. I don't do one-night stands or casual sex, etc. I'm talking about guys that seem cool in the beginning and seem attracted to me, but eventually he'll ask if I wants kids, I say yes, because why lie about it? then that's when they say they don't or have had a v.
If I sense the guy is a jerk or just looking for a good time, then I bolt. I don't know how to determine they don't kids with me specifically.
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Originally Posted by evilnewbie
Could it be they want kids but not with you? Are they hoping for a NSA relationship because they already have a girlfriend? Could they be secretly married and hoping for a one-night stand... if you met a lot of guys and they don't want kids, chances are they are just looking to cheat on their spouse but not let you know that information because there aren't that many guys with that point of view... perhaps, they are too old... after a certain age, I wouldn't want to have kids.... I don't want a have kid to still be home when I retire!! Maybe they think they are so good-looking they are trying to sleep with as many girls as possible and don't want to be tied down... is that the kind of guy you been hunting?
I've never had a sexual relationship, but I've had a relationship.
And I have knowledge of what it's like to be a parent from watching my parents raise me. Like I said on a previous post, it's just a matter of preference. Some people want kids. Some don't.
What's wrong with knowing at a young age that you don't want kids? It's better I realize now before it's too late. That's better than having kids THEN realizing you don't want them.
That's a really big claim right there. I doubt it, really. I watch 5 (3 nieces and 2 nephews) kids and volunteer at places that deals with kids, and I still don't know what it means to be a parent. Let me tell you, my nieces and my nephews drive me crazy (sometimes), but I still try my best as an aunt to love them and understand their parents. I do the basic things that a parent would do (love, care, feed, play, change dipers, communicate, etc) and I still have trouble knowing what it means to be a parent. Of course, I just think I don't have enough commitment. That's probably my issue, ahaha.
Way to miss the point. Me not wanting kids was just a small sentence in that post. The point of the post is how people should wait until they can support themselves before they have kids (if they want kids), yet a lot of people don't understand this so they have a baby before they can support themselves.
Editorializing is the point. You seem obsessed with making points which all adults are aware of and DO understand very well but which to you are some sort of epiphany meritous of repetition.. A budding Socrates you are not, you funny little fellow.
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