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I totally agree. Liquor, weed and other drugs tend to bind people who, otherwise, have absolutely nothing in common. Most of us unfortunately learned this in high school and college. This is not simply limited to intimate boyfriend/girlfriend relationships but friendships and acquaintanceships as well. Anyone who has attended college in recent years can attest to this. I remember when I was in college a few years ago, going to bars and drinking regularly with classmates and smoking herb in the parking lot afterwards was the only thing we had in common. I've had a few "friends" who I would have never even spoke a word to if it wasn't for our mutually love of getting sauced. But all of our drunk talk was meaningless nor memorable. I have since cut-down on my drinking and I no longer hang out with people solely as drinking or smoking buddies. I've learned that it is actually very dangerous to have friends and relationships centered mostly around booze and drugs. A "friend" or "boyfriend" or "girlfriend" who is merely just a drinking or smoking buddy is much more likely to willingly assault you or hurt you, in general, in my experience. I have had "drinking buddies" attack me for no reason except for the fact that "they were drunk" in the past. Just say "Hi" and keep it moving. It would be much more ideal to have common interests with someone besides drinking and or drugging. But sadly, I know too many people who let substance use and abuse define their whole lives. It is better to develop a three dimensional personality in terms of having real hobbies and interests. I have many hobbies, aspirations and interests and I choose to hang around people that have similar interests. Most solid friendships and relationships are based on much stronger bonds in terms of having things in common with others. Drinking and the occasional joint should be a sidedish, not the main attraction at the show. Even if you don't have a lot in common with a date, you should have plenty more activities to enjoy other than "hitting the bar".
Drinking buddies are as old as Urglug's invention of beer several thousand years ago. For me, at least, they have a place in the social hierarchy. Of course, I've been pleasantly surprised once I've gotten to know them outside of a bar. But I do admit, pure bar relationships get tedious after awhile as they come to annoy you and as you dislike the bar.
Do you agree that relationships with other people centered around booze and/or drugs creates more drama than those that are in relationships that don't have their lives centered around booze or drugs.
Some people seem to think they can't have fun without their booze.
Are you a drug addict? Seriously you have a lot of posts about addictions and it's affect on others/relationships.
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