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I recently started communicating with a new guy on a dating site. He called me and we had a great conversation. I felt the "telephone sparks" which is a good thing. So anyways, using the information that I gathered during our phone call, I then went into full stalker mode and looked him up on every site I could think of just to do an informal background check for safety reasons in case we ever decide to meet in person. Anyways, I found out his last name, home address, place of work, personal website, public records, a couple of photos, etc. During my research, I also found out that he's about 6 or 7 years older than he claims to be on his dating profile. I didn't ask his age when we spoke on the phone so he didn't directly lie to me about it, but he has to realize that the age on his profile is way off. He's claiming to be 3 years older than me when he's really closer to 10 years older. I have lied about my age in the past on dating sites (I'm not currently lying about anything), so this isn't automatically a dealbreaker, but it does make me wonder what else he might be lying about. I'm also a bit worried that he didn't put any clear, recent pictures on his profile, but I found some that appeared to be somewhat recent during my research and you can clearly see that he's older than what he claims to be.
So, is it my fault for being a stalker or is it his fault for lying? Should I just ask him how old he is to see what he says? Maybe he has an explanation for lying about it...
He's a liar and you have no respect for someone's privacy.
Sounds like a perfect match.
Eh, I think it's pretty normal to Google online dates when you're a female. It's not like I hired a private investigator. I have to look out for myself here.
fyi...I dunno what "public records" you looked at but the online ones like peoplefinder.com, intelius.com, etc all have my age wrong bye 6 yrs
that being said he could actually be lying as well...you could always ask some roundabout questions like HS/college grad class yr etc. and then do the math
He's a liar and you have no respect for someone's privacy.
Sounds like a perfect match.
No respect for someone's privacy? Sorry but if your information is out there online, its fair game. Its not as if she had a private investigator staking this guy out in front of his house.
I have lied about my age in the past on dating sites (I'm not currently lying about anything), so this isn't automatically a dealbreaker, but it does make me wonder what else he might be lying about.
But couldn't the same be said for you? If you were doing it yourself, then why not cut him a break?
Personally I don't get the point of lying on a dating site - if someone would reject you for being 7 years older, then isn't it better to have them weed you out at the start, rather than reject you in person? Same thing with posting fuzzy photos - or old photos - the whole point is to eventually meet in person, so why would anyone try to mislead a potential date about what they look like? The last thing I'd want is to be rejected in person because I was older, or less attractive than someone expected. That would SUCK!
fyi...I dunno what "public records" you looked at but the online ones like peoplefinder.com, intelius.com, etc all have my age wrong bye 6 yrs
that being said he could actually be lying as well...you could always ask some roundabout questions like HS/college grad class yr etc. and then do the math
I found his high school class year (8 years before mine) and an article mentioning how old he was during a certain year, and I was 9 years younger than him in that year. So there's no way he can only be 3 years older than me like he alleges.
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But couldn't the same be said for you? If you were doing it yourself, then why not cut him a break?
I am cutting him a break since I did it myself, but I'm just on guard now.
Same thing with posting fuzzy photos - or old photos - the whole point is to eventually meet in person, so why would anyone try to mislead a potential date about what they look like?
Beats me! They probably think they'll be so charming in person that the other person will cut them some slack in this department whereas otherwise he/she wouldn't give them a chance at all.
He probably put a younger age to catch, I mean, meet, younger women.
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