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The person who asks the other party out should pay. It sounds utterly preposterous that you invite someone out, and then expect them to pay for you.
I think that's why the first-date rule in OLD is 50/50. Because you both understand that a first date is the goal if all the preliminary conversations go well. That is, after all, the whole raison d'être for doing OLD.
Whereas IRL someone has to make the first move because until they do it's not established that dating was necessarily what both people wanted. So that's why IRL the person who asks should pay
I think that's why the first-date rule in OLD is 50/50. Because you both understand that a first date is the goal if all the preliminary conversations go well. That is, after all, the whole raison d'être for doing OLD.
Whereas IRL someone has to make the first move because until they do it's not established that dating was necessarily what both people wanted. So that's why IRL the person who asks should pay
This makes sense to me. OLD first meeting is not really a date, in my opinion, it's just an introduction to see if you want to actually date.
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It wasn't a game. What's even funnier is that he took my cash and put it in his wallet and paid for both of our drinks with his credit card.
Is that unusual? When I split with someone I'm seeing one of us often puts it on a card and gives the other cash for their half. That is pretty normal around here.
Is that unusual? When I split with someone I'm seeing one of us often puts it on a card and gives the other cash for their half. That is pretty normal around here.
Yes, it's unusual for me. We either both contribute cash or use separate forms of payment, not one person pocketing the other's cash. Not to mention all he needed to come up with in cash for his portion was $6.
The reason for this poll is that it just amazes me how many people believe that the male is SUPPOSED to pay for dates. If he does not he is usually seen as a cheap A$$ho!3. Why cant things be equal? I am all in favor of equality of the sexes but in this matter it never seems to be the case. I think the bills should always be split. Is it because it has always been like that? Is it in the bible? Just because it has always been that way does not make it right. What makes the guy responsible to pay for the bill?
(By the way, I always pay for my dates, not because I believe is right, but because not doing or suggesting a split bill could bring a lot of unpleasantness to the situation.)
Whoever asks?
Besides, if people are so concerned over "who should pay or not" don't date.
If a guy's (attempting to) start(ing) a new relationship on the wrong foot, being all stingy, his resentment is written all over his face and shows how much of a cheapskate tight wad he is, no lady (or man) will find that attractive in any way shape or form (unless they have zero self-respect for themselves).
It's the vibe you bring, and people pick up on that quickly.
A part of the process of finding love is giving love without expecting in return.
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Yes, it's unusual for me. We either both contribute cash or use separate forms of payment, not one person pocketing the other's cash. Not to mention all he needed to come up with in cash for his portion was $6.
Oh well $6 is different, but lots of places hate to split checks, and having been on that side of the counter, if it is a real night out (not $6), unless they tell you before hand that the checks are split, it can be a big PITA. Payment is payment, cash or credit doesn't matter.
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