How do I break it to her? (how to, women, loyalty)
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He was engaged to your friend, you know she is "seriously invested" in him and will probably cry or try to kill you when she finds out you're banging him... and you're still going for it? This guy must be hung like Tiger Woods!
I know! He says he's confused and doesn't know if he wants to be with her anymore, but I really like him and want to be with him. It's a sticky situation...
You're sh*tting me right?
1) I would not date a friend's ex. My circle of friends have an unwritten rule about that. Men come and go but we value our friendships first. It causes all kinds of hurt feelings and resentments.
2) He's "confused" and "not sure" if he wants to be with your friend? So you're considering risking hurting your friend for a guy that isn't even that certain? That still may be messing around with her.
Ugh! This reeks of drama. I wouldn't mess with him. Find a guy that is completely available and sure he wants to pursue things with you and preferabley not your friends' used goods.
He's making an effort to change though, and she was really invested in him, that's why it is going to be so hard to tell her with out her crying or trying to kill me
In that case, I strongly advise against wrecking a once-close friendship to pursue this man. Even if he is trying to change his cheating ways, I don't think he is worth ruining a friendship.
Last edited by Cindy_Jole; 09-30-2011 at 10:12 AM..
Reason: forgot the word "against"
K, just read the whole thread and found out about the cheating and broken engagement.
YOU are the worst kind of friend because like someone already said, you car emore about yourself than your friend and are willing to trash the friendship for some guy. A guy that cheated and has moved on to one of her so-called friends.
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Originally Posted by sweetdreamerx0
Besides that he's a wonderful person, so generous and thoughtful never met anyone like him
I'm sorry, you are so completely naive and gullible if you think this guy is any kind of catch. He sounds like an a$$hole that is more than willing to have his fun at the expense of whomever will let him stick it in and then move on to whatever suits his fancy.
Have fun with that loser and breaking it to your former friend. Also have fun looking for new friends when this one moves on to the next naive chick giving him an in.
K, just read the whole thread and found out about the cheating and broken engagement.
YOU are the worst kind of friend because like someone already said, you car emore about yourself than your friend and are willing to trash the friendship for some guy. A guy that cheated and has moved on to one of her so-called friends.
I'm sorry, you are so completely naive and gullible if you think this guy is any kind of catch. He sounds like an a$$hole that is more than willing to have his fun at the expense of whomever will let him stick it in and then move on to whatever suits his fancy.
Have fun with that loser and breaking it to your former friend. Also have fun looking for new friends when this one moves on to the next naive chick giving him an in.
If you met him too you would see how great of a person he is and would probably want to be with him too
He was engaged to your friend, you know she is "seriously invested" in him and will probably cry or try to kill you when she finds out you're banging him... and you're still going for it? This guy must be hung like Tiger Woods!
Its not all about the sex he does other good things
Besides that he's a wonderful person, so generous and thoughtful never met anyone like him
A cheat and a liar who still doesn't know what he wants is a wonderful person? Damn lady, you have some low expectations. That, or you're trolling. I'm hoping it's the latter.
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Originally Posted by Cindy_Jole
In that case, I strongly advise wrecking a once-close friendship to pursue this man. Even if he is trying to change his cheating ways, I don't think he is worth ruining a friendship.
This friend might deserve better friends than what she has to offer. OTOH, given birds of a feather and all, perhaps the lot of them are just crappy to each other.
No I know I'm in the wrong thats why I didn't respond
That makes it even worse.
Just remember that when this guy cheats on you and dumps you for another of your friends, this friend you have now won't be there for you.
Good luck. Karma is a *****.
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