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One of my best friends is a gay man. When my mother heard that I had grown close to a gay man, she was over the moon with joy. She thought he'd civilize me. I had to break it to her gently that all gay men do not necessarily think shopping at the Short Hills Mall is a perfect day and that they do not necessarily come with perfect fashion sense and accessories or go clubbing at the trendy hotspots. My gay best friend and I have gone shopping for trucks together, we prefer Old Navy for our everyday wardrobes and we mostly socialize in dimly lit pubs.
He DID totally back up my mother's demand that I paint an accent wall in my old condo though. Sigh.
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It's kind of a stereotype, isn't it? I wonder if gay males really do have more women friends than straight males. I mean some gay men seem mainly to hang out with other men socially, while of course others hang out with both or mainly women. Of the gay men I've met a lot didn't meet the flamboyant Carson Kressley Queen type of persona, fashionable, funny, and like one of the 'girlfriends.'
Of course it's a stereotype. The thing that makes a gay man gay is his attraction/feelings of love towards males. Anything else is just a personality specific to that particular man. Like any stereotype, some live up to it and some find it abhorrent.
I find it weird when women have a gay man fetish, like he's a pet and not an actual person.
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Originally Posted by Cantabridgienne
Of course it's a stereotype. The thing that makes a gay man gay is his attraction/feelings of love towards males. Anything else is just a personality specific to that particular man. Like any stereotype, some live up to it and some find it abhorrent.
I find it weird when women have a gay man fetish, like he's a pet and not an actual person.
Yeah Carson Kressley or something seems like a character, he's so over the top, but then again that was Reality TV as well. I've known gay men who 'acted the part' but they had a bit more depth to them and didn't seem so one dimensional.
To continue the ridiculously stereotypical theme with which this thread was initiated:
I think that abrasive, overweight straight women are drawn to pop culture's stereotype of flamboyant, dramatic gay men, as a compromise. They are afforded male love and companionship, without the sting of rejection, but absent the sexual intimacy that they wouldn't get from straight men anyway.
Oh yeah. I used to work in a bar where one of my regular customers was a gay man. He wasn't flamboyant per se, but he was clearly gay. A really nice guy, funny, good-looking, etc. One night two women were chatting with him and when he went to the bathroom, they told me they wanted him to be "their new gay", like they saw him as a status symbol. It wasn't the first time I witnessed attitudes like that, either.
When I was in middle school there was gay kid that at the prom he danced with the hottest girls there but I couldn't a single one of them to dance with me. Lucky bastard lol.
I have become sort of friends with a couple of gay men who work at the starbucks where I go. One is almost twenty years younger than me and the other is probably my age to five years older.
I do not think they have some extreme fashion sense, social poise, etc. I don't either! What they DO have is absolute quirkiness. I have this as well and it is pretty hard to come by people either with this or accepting of this. People look at you like you are crazy or they are just flat out better than you.
I have never been much for hanging with gay men, etc. I do feel comfortable around these two, however. like I can be myself and not be judged. Most certainly, I hope they know they can feel the same around me.
I was talking to my bf about them yesterday. People like this as well as younger people seem to be drawn to me. I am drawn more so to the elderly, so I don't know whats going on.....
To further confuse things...there are several heterosexual men...often young men, who behave in a stereotypically homosexual manner. Maybe they're smarter than the rest of us?
Hmmmm....It worked in the movie "Kick-Ass" anyway.
But what is a "homosexual manner"? Sexuality has little to do with behavior. A gay man is sexually attracted to other men. He may hate fashion and love sports, but if he's gay, he wants to have sex with men. Likewise, a straight guy might love theater and own lots of pink shirts, but if he's into women, he's not gay.
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