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Ive been waiting to find someone who rung my bell like someone who I was was seeing 8 years ago. On the attractive scale (both physically and emotionally) it just wasn't entirely there. She was blonde, short and cute but had terrible skin. She also had quite a bit a baggage. She was a horse gal and physically she had the skin(from so much sun) of a 60 year old at 29. May be shallow on my part but that combined with some other small issues along with the baggage was enough for me to move on.
On a positive side she was the most fantastic lover in the world. No one since has come close.
Intuatively I would think the more attracted you are to someone the better the sex would be? I have been with woman that I have been much more compatible and attracted to since but the Lovin hasn't approached the level I had with her. Apparently you can't have it all!
Any of you have on old flame who the new women (or men) can't hold a candle to?
Any of you have on old flame who the new women (or men) can't hold a candle to?
I used to sleep with a stripper when I was in my 20s.
She went on to become a halfway semi-popular porn star in the late 90s-early 2000s.
She was pretty deep into the drug world which I wasn't but when she was whacked, she was, WITHOUT QUESTION, the wildest roll in the hay I've ever had.
Right out of the movies the sex was.
She still makes online movies, and I speak to her 5-6 times a year.
none at all. of course if you are unhealthy (inc obese) that is guna affect anything physical that you do.
"there are no ugly women, only lazy ones".
helena rubenstein.
I'm fortunate in that my husband is my best lover. I didn't marry him for love...I married him for the sex.
Does that fall in line with "You can learn to Love anyone?" I know your kidding?
I'm thinking if she(he) makes you feel that good during Love making you are going to be more into her(him) than someone who doesn't bring you to that level of ground shaking, mind numbing ecstasy?
Ive been waiting to find someone who rung my bell like someone who I was was seeing 8 years ago. On the attractive scale (both physically and emotionally) it just wasn't entirely there. She was blonde, short and cute but had terrible skin. She also had quite a bit a baggage. She was a horse gal and physically she had the skin(from so much sun) of a 60 year old at 29. May be shallow on my part but that combined with some other small issues along with the baggage was enough for me to move on.
On a positive side she was the most fantastic lover in the world. No one since has come close.
Intuatively I would think the more attracted you are to someone the better the sex would be? I have been with woman that I have been much more compatible and attracted to since but the Lovin hasn't approached the level I had with her. Apparently you can't have it all!
Any of you have on old flame who the new women (or men) can't hold a candle to?
The "attractiveness" has to be the attraction between the two of you. If she just wasnt 'the one' sexually, or love-wise - then she wasnt. And you are so right that the one you love the most isnt always THE best sex - but you can make it better. And sex with love is usually awesome, IMO. It's worth it.
Maybe others wouldnt think the person - or you - was 'stunning' in every way, but obviously they have to appeal to YOU in just about every way.
My Top 2 - i used to have A #1 - but he was surpassed in the recent years lol - were really different kind of guys.
The ex-# 1 was someone that most people didnt think was good-looking (we worked together, so i knew what people thought lol). We were really good friends, large age difference, talked a lot about everything, and ended up hooking up. It just ended up he felt like my perfect match. There was never any love there, aside from friendship love. But it was amazing for a couple of years. I personally thought he was sexy, but nobody else could figure it out!
The one who surpassed him was a guy from another country. I like to call him "The Mesmerizer." He was much thinner than my usual 'type,' but he was dark (hair and eyes) like i normally like. He WAS very handsome and sexy. We thought we were gonna get married - and i was damned ready lol He had the romance thing going, along with the sex - and the accent, and mystery of his past in another country... but alas, he turned out to be an ***.
I've had other good stuff from not-so-great looking guys - you can always shut your eyes lol. I'm not gonna get naked w/someone and have it suck... I'll MAKE it good!!
I think what I call chemistry is what is most important to me. For me, chemistry is hard to explain but it is not only physical attraction, but there is a certain level of physical attraction that is required. I have noticed that a lot of guys do think that chemistry is just mutual physical attraction. Not so for me. I have met guys who are really good looking and we were mutually attracted to each other, but we had no sexual chemistry. You can feel this. Chemistry is also not only an emotional connection. This is something a lot of women think - that all that is necesssary is to have an emotional connection with a man and they (women) will begin to feel sexual chemistry. This is just theory though. Instead what often happens is that a guy ends up in the friendzone if that is all there is. Chemistry does involve a certain level of emotional connection though. Emotional connection must be there. Chemistry also includes shared life values, shared sexual fantasies, and shared or complementary personalities.
You can be sexually attracted to someone temporarily just long enough to have sex, but it may not last, but having chemistry is what keeps you going back repeatedly for more. In short, I'd say that the best sex would come from someone who has all those things I mentioned. Finding someone you have chemistry with is hard to find.
Ive been waiting to find someone who rung my bell like someone who I was was seeing 8 years ago. On the attractive scale (both physically and emotionally) it just wasn't entirely there. She was blonde, short and cute but had terrible skin. She also had quite a bit a baggage. She was a horse gal and physically she had the skin(from so much sun) of a 60 year old at 29. May be shallow on my part but that combined with some other small issues along with the baggage was enough for me to move on.
On a positive side she was the most fantastic lover in the world. No one since has come close.
Intuatively I would think the more attracted you are to someone the better the sex would be? I have been with woman that I have been much more compatible and attracted to since but the Lovin hasn't approached the level I had with her. Apparently you can't have it all!
Any of you have on old flame who the new women (or men) can't hold a candle to?
Physical appearance doesn't even make the top 5 list on what makes a man "attractive" to me.
And as you yourself said, the "most fantastic lover in the world" you ever had was no raving beauty.
So just remember, "attraction" to someone is not always about just physical attributes.
Physical appearance doesn't even make the top 5 list on what makes a man "attractive" to me.
And as you yourself said, the "most fantastic lover in the world" you ever had was no raving beauty.
So just remember, "attraction" to someone is not always about just physical attributes.
"So just remember, "attraction" to someone is not always about just physical attributes"
I completely agree! And someone that I find attractive is not necessarily attractive to someone else. I have had relationships that were working on all combinations on the surface: Communication/Chemistry/Looks/Commonailty/humor but apparently we don't have the Sexual chemistry(as pointed out by srjth) that "the one" had. Is it important to have someone that will knock your socks off sexually into the next county?
Last edited by LS Jaun; 10-24-2011 at 05:10 PM..
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