Anyone giving consideration to marriage, but your Fiance's family is a big turnoff ? (how to, love)
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Just wondering how much consideration you are / should give such an issue (???) This assumes the entire family lives just a couple miles from you and where such things as extreme gossip, snootiness, and control are prevalent.
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Oh, and to the OP, if you can't deal with her family now, think about the daily ins and outs of it and then make your decision. They will not change (and that's ok) but if you can't deal, think about the rest of it very seriously.
Just wondering how much consideration you are / should give such an issue (???) This assumes the entire family lives just a couple miles from you and where such things as extreme gossip, snootiness, and control are prevalent.
Please discuss your thoughts. thanks.
It is wise to remember that you don't just marry a person, but the person they have become based on their family of origin.
If the family of origin has issues like alcoholism or mental health concerns I would recommend a very long courtship to be really sure you know your fiancee' well and that you want people like this to be your future children's relatives.
If however they are just unpleasant, gossipy or controlling people I would not let this keep me from the love of my life, I'd just be sure to move a few states away once you get married
Just wondering how much consideration you are / should give such an issue (???) This assumes the entire family lives just a couple miles from you and where such things as extreme gossip, snootiness, and control are prevalent.
Please discuss your thoughts. thanks.
Yes, it is very important. Don't minimize its importance. If you doubt, check all of the online sites where inlaws complain about each other and make each other's lives miserable.
I just read a post where someone asked, "If she hates us so much, why did she marry into this family?"
It is a legitimate concern, just like values, finances and other things are.
Yes, it is very important. Don't minimize its importance. If you doubt, check all of the online sites where inlaws complain about each other and make each other's lives miserable.
I just read a post where someone asked, "If she hates us so much, why did she marry into this family?"
It is a legitimate concern, just like values, finances and other things are.
Yes...i have to agree totally. The inlaws can become the outlaws in a hurry .
Yes, my in-laws were a problem... they were beyond a problem. How to solve the problem? Never see them again. They despised me, threatened their son, "If you marry her, we will disinherit you" (and they have oodles of money), and the result was... in 20 years we've seen them about 4 times. They never call, never send gifts or cards and if they died, neither my husband or I could care less.
I've never understood people who agonize over worthless in-laws. Excise them from your life! I never agreed with Dr. Laura on much, but one thing she was right about: if you have abusive parents or in-laws, divorce them and move on.
No in-law has the right to make you feel bad without your permission. And it's a huge red flag if your spouse is taking their parents side over yours: a spouse should always come first.
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