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My son`s middle name is my ex`s first name.
I remarried, and he does not have an issue with it, although I don`t go around using it everyday either. Even if I did, its what it is, ya` know?
He would either have to get over it, or move on because I`m sure in the hell not gonna change his name, because he has a problem with it.
Way too overly sensitive, and not ready for a relationship with a single parent.
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Originally Posted by Yzette
You are being MUCH too sensitive.
He had a life before you. If you are so insecure that you make an issue of his daughter's name, he'll have a life after you, too.
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Originally Posted by burgler09
Yeah, that's waaaay too much overboard. It is the girl's name and that's overstepping any boundaries to not allow him to call his daughter a name.
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Originally Posted by aleecya
No, you are being overly sensitive. Everyone that has an ex that has spent a great deal of time with them or produced a child ( that child will always be a constant reminder of the union that they once had, based on how the child favors a bit of both parents in demeanor or looks) will talk about them from time to time. I have a question do you feel insecure with your relationship because that is want it sounds like, based on your reaction to him calling his daughter by her full name. Usually, there is a hidden issue that is the underlining cause when we are hurt by something that a SO does/ says. The issue could be some sense of inadequacy with how he feels about you or your self esteem or your comparison with yourself to his ex. The more you press him with your need for reassurance that you hold a special place in his heart, it will drive him away. He is going to see it as if you are constantly picking a fight, instead of seeing what is causing your discomfort, most guys wont see that you need reassurance about your relationship. Men think simply, I am with you, I give you my time and if I did not want to be with you I wouldn't be, (they think) why doesn't she see that
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Originally Posted by Trackwatch
He must cut all contact with this daughter because every time he sees her it reminds him of his ex and the relationship they had together.
Either that or you get over it.
Had to stop quoting or i'd have used up all of CDs bandwidth.... I agree with the above posts wholeheartedly
If the child's middle name is part of her name that she goes by (as our OP reported) he can't just stop calling his daughter what he's always called her
How about respect for THE CHILD that was there well before this little girlfriend?
He is not "bringing up" anything or failing to "let go of the past" - he is just calling his child her name.
I don't think she is, as a man i wouldn't do that, just bring up a woman from my past unless something was asked about that person! I don't think she's being insecure either, it's called respect people, and far as the childs middle name it is what it is but to bring this woman up is not cool, how can you move forward with someone and a person can't let go of the past!
This is the man's daughter. It is her given name. This Girl needs to get a grip. If the man calling his lil girl her full name is an issue, there is no way she is ready for an adult relationship w/ a single, divorced parent. There are so many more issues to come in any divorce, child-rearing relationship for many years. This is beyond PETTY. Her behavior is childish. I hope he finds a better relationship, for his and his daughter's sake.
Too sensitive? Yes, yes and yes. The child will always be in your SO's life and so will her mom, at some level. If you can't deal with that you may want to look for a SO without children. I would be happy that he is in his daughter's life.
My bf has a daughter let's say named Ally, her middle name is Terry which is also his ex's first name.( he gave her the middle name, a fond way to show his love to the ex i guess).
He calls the daughter Ally Terry all the time which got me really uncomfortable, it feels like a reminder of the love they had before.( Because my bf always try to picture his ex as a perfect woman and mention her name from time to time).
I talk to bf about this and he thinks I pick up fights for nothing. Am I being overly sensitive? Should I not be bothered by this?
You're being too sensitive about the daughter's name, But you might have a legit beef about the part bolded.
My bf has a daughter let's say named Ally, her middle name is Terry which is also his ex's first name.( he gave her the middle name, a fond way to show his love to the ex i guess).
He calls the daughter Ally Terry all the time which got me really uncomfortable, it feels like a reminder of the love they had before.( Because my bf always try to picture his ex as a perfect woman and mention her name from time to time).
I talk to bf about this and he thinks I pick up fights for nothing. Am I being overly sensitive? Should I not be bothered by this?
I didn't bother reading any of the replies because I know there's a quick way to solve this problem.
I thought pathetic was more fitting.
I think you should break up now and save you and him a lot of drama.
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Should I not be bothered by this?
