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I just gave this some thought, imagining myself in the opposite end of this situation. I know a particularly attractive girl who, to put it nicely, thinks very highly of herself. We all know someone like that. If she were to "charity" date me so as to put herself in an advantaged position over me, I wouldn't let that situation last very long. Unless I could devise a clever way to turn it into a FWB situation.
So I guess my point is, watch out for the tables being turned on you, if you do go into a relationship with this mindset.
Your "strategy" may work - who knows unless you try? I used a variant where I let the women select (contact) me based on having a great profile. And I didn't limit my expectations like you are doing. I was eventually found by a so-called "hot" woman who is also extremely compatible in every other way that matters. It was truly a win-win result and neither of us "settled". It does require some patience, learning and adapting your profile based on experience, and selecting the most suitable dating sites to use to obtain the best results.
women are most happy when they think they did something clever to lure you in...where... normally the occasion would not of happened. it gives women their romantic objective....they need a romantic objective...
therefore dilly dallying after some bombshell is a waste of time....present yourself as respectable straight shooter , care for her as a sister from the get go....and forget about everything else....why..?
because if it has a chance.....she will do the rest to fulfill her romantic objective providing for her ego as a women...
i saw a very very attractive young guy the other day walking down the street ...oh about 24...know him a little....he was with this girl...she looked about 22 and i'm very good with age.
hes a bit weird, artistic, getting educated now..very different with a corny weird voice and hugely introverted...
the girl looked relative to our dumb standards like the plainest, homliest, girl with a complexion problem and other things which people would automatically reject an application for cheerleader or something...very very much a potencial life long wall flower...
now remember this guy could get work in la in two seconds with his looks...
if you could see how happy those two kids were you would not believe it...they were simply not in this world walking down the street....she was in absolute paradise....should have seen the raggy glow...it was beautiful....he was doing just fine as well...
so the point is....maybe this OP has a point in todays world....maybe he just wants to make sure hes appreciated and can draw out that glow that we men know is hiding behind all those un-neccesary suitcases of brainwashed commercialism grading and suggested value re expected life partner pesudo qualities....
the relationship thing is a mess right now....whatta expect guys to do.....figure out a plan for possible happiness with someone ....or wait around for meeting exactly the perfect combo...hey...theres no such thing as a perfect combo...thats the first thing that the people need to wake up and smell the coffee on
Not really. In my observations, they often do exactly what he plans to do - go for the easy life with no challenges; in other words, the life that won't keep him on his toes!
Do people really just "go for the easy life?" Maybe it's just me, but I would think most people begin and continue relationships because they're compatible. I have a hard time imagining the thought process: "Wow, Jane isn't as hot as Stacy, I'm sure she'll provide an easy dating experience!"
Do people really just "go for the easy life?" Maybe it's just me, but I would think most people begin and continue relationships because they're compatible. I have a hard time imagining the thought process: "Wow, Jane isn't as hot as Stacy, I'm sure she'll provide an easy dating experience!"
All the while I've been talking about marriage, not "dating experience."
But marriage usually starts with dating. Do you think a lot of people marry because their partner was an easy catch?
I think a lot of people eventually target and marry partners who would provide them with an easy "marital experience," regardless of their general taste when they used to go for the "dating experience." Don't we discuss this every day?!
I think a lot of people eventually target and marry partners who would provide them with an easy "marital experience," regardless of their general taste when they used to go for the "dating experience." Don't we discuss this every day?!
I always just figured people would date for a while and then figure out if they're compatible enough for marriage along the way. I've never really targeted someone specifically for marriage.
This is such a recipe for disaster I don't even know where to begin. I will say though don't assume that you are the only "good" guy going after the Plain Janes, as you put it. This idea that women who don't look as good as other women you think are more hot, will take the first good looking guy who shows them some attention is pretty much a myth these days. People are not as desperate as you think.
Great points, yet I have personal evidence otherwise.
I formulated this strategy after hearing the usual office talk. I work with many women in the 24-45 + age range and I will say that so many of these plain types long for a serious story-book relationship and continually go with out them. Sure, I bet they get some attention but i feel that the numbers just dont add up...not to mention these plain types im talking about actually have good jobs and such--something many guys dont...
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