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Amanda, I am a female, so not being sexist. I read some of your responses, and being curious I also had a peek at your profile. I have to say you are absolutely adorable, and you look like you are a fun loving person. I think it is his loss, and I think he realized that you were not just someone he could have a quick fling w/., and he figured out he doesn't have enough -----
to handle a real relationship w/ someone as attractive as you. You cannot be 38?? You have got a lot more choices than a guy w/ obvious insecurity, and hangups. Just be yourself, and be true to yourself. A Man that has his own life in order will appreciate you for all your gifts, not just your looks. Meanwhile, just live your life and be good to yourself. When you aren't looking, true love finds you.
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Amanda, some fine examples of insecure men in some of these posts. You just take care of you. That is all you can do. You cannot change other peoples minds, or insecurity issues.
Women know what many folks don't, there are people that just cannot handle being upstaged in their imagination in a relationship, be it business, or personal. It brings out the worst in them, really w/out any explanation, because it is something they don't even realize. When someone is attractive, rather than a mousey shy female, there are plenty of males and other females that cannot handle it. So, unless you want to have to school and rationalize every irrational act visited upon you by these individuals, just call it a day....and move on. You are just being curious about this guy's excuse anyway, I get that.
Talk about huge rationalizations...pot meet kettle.
Well...he could have kept his mouth shut long enough to get some, and then split. There's no telling what his exact reasons were, but I have to give him credit for giving her a heads up early on.
But what you might not get is that what you think I'm communicating with my manner of dress, may not be what I'm trying to communicate with my manner of dress.
Which is why using manner of dress to make judgements about a person's character is pretty useless.
But what you might not get is that what you think I'm communicating with my manner of dress, may not be what I'm trying to communicate with my manner of dress.
Which is why using manner of dress to make judgements about a person's character is pretty useless.
Miscommunication is rarely a one-way street. You even agreed that you're communicating what you're intending to communicate by your manner of dress, so it doesn't seem like you're too worried about it.
People will make assumptions about people based upon how they dress. But one shouldn't assume that their assumptions are correct.
Eh? Anyway! My point is simply that whether they "should" or not, they will.
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But what you might not get is that what you think I'm communicating with my manner of dress, may not be what I'm trying to communicate with my manner of dress.
Which is why using manner of dress to make judgements about a person's character is pretty useless.
You even agreed that you're communicating what you're intending to communicate by your manner of dress, so it doesn't seem like you're too worried about it.
I'm attempting to communicate what I'm trying to communicate. The feedback I'm receiving leads me to believe that there is some static somewhere.
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Eh? Anyway! My point is simply that whether they "should" or not, they will.
For someone feigning nonchalance, you sure seem hung up on the subject.
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