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To me, it just seems like people date for the wrong(well, what I think is wrong) reasons. It's all based on looks, "oh she's hot" or "oh, he's sexy" and superficial things.
I'm starting college in the fall and I have observed from facebook and instagram the guys I went to high school went have not grown up a bit. For some of them, their behavior/lifestyle even got more immature! So college guys will be almost a replica of high school guys. I didn't date in high school, just because I knew how most of them were.
I was reading a thread on the Fashion & Beauty forum of this site about whether or not guys like makeup on a girl. On the thread it was said that guys that claim to like no makeup on a girl a.k.a natural beauty actually mean that they really just like a girl who wears natural looking makeup. On that same thread, one person posted that most guys who actually want a 100% makeup free girl only wants a "plain jane" because they are controlling, know not many other guys would want her, and knows because of that, that girl will likely stay with him because her dating options are low. I have nothing against makeup. I use light makeup for special occasions. But for the other 360 days of the year, none. I know a lot of people say looks aren't everything, but those same people drool over celebrities.
I don't wear makeup because there are other things I'd rather spend my time on, like reading and improving my writing and playing my favorite video games. Right now I have no interest in boyfriends or dating because I want to focus on adjusting to college and choosing a major, but I know that eventually there will come a time where I do have an interest but then I think why bother dating? It's all about looks. At least in the beginning it is. Yeah, maybe once you date for a little bit the guy might care about your personality.. but how do you get the attention of that guy in the first place? Looks.
So here's the bottom line: I'd like to date eventually but I know my make-up less face will be a huge disadvantage. Oh well. I don't like the feel of make-up, it feels icky, and dirty. I choose my comfort and personality (just never been girly) over impressing guys. If a guy refuses to talk to me because I don't like wearing make-up, oh well. Not a guy I want to be with. And A LOT of guys care about looks no matter how much they deny it.
Why worry so much about what others think of you?
You go to college to learn and be educated for a career (in theory), you do not pay all that tuition money and spend all that time to learn how to drink, date and party.
Live your life the way you want and if you are happy with yourself the way you are then that is all that is necessary.
Dating is NOT all about looks for everyone. The trick is to find men who value other things about women. They're definitely out there, and some are in college. Plenty of college women don't wear makeup, btw. So don't worry about it.
fyi, a good rule of thumb here on C-D is to not let all the negativity get to you, or actually affect how you think. Take it all with a few grains of salt.
To me, it just seems like people date for the wrong(well, what I think is wrong) reasons. It's all based on looks, "oh she's hot" or "oh, he's sexy" and superficial things.
I'm starting college in the fall and I have observed from facebook and instagram the guys I went to high school went have not grown up a bit. For some of them, their behavior/lifestyle even got more immature! So college guys will be almost a replica of high school guys. I didn't date in high school, just because I knew how most of them were.
I was reading a thread on the Fashion & Beauty forum of this site about whether or not guys like makeup on a girl. On the thread it was said that guys that claim to like no makeup on a girl a.k.a natural beauty actually mean that they really just like a girl who wears natural looking makeup. On that same thread, one person posted that most guys who actually want a 100% makeup free girl only wants a "plain jane" because they are controlling, know not many other guys would want her, and knows because of that, that girl will likely stay with him because her dating options are low. I have nothing against makeup. I use light makeup for special occasions. But for the other 360 days of the year, none. I know a lot of people say looks aren't everything, but those same people drool over celebrities.
I don't wear makeup because there are other things I'd rather spend my time on, like reading and improving my writing and playing my favorite video games. Right now I have no interest in boyfriends or dating because I want to focus on adjusting to college and choosing a major, but I know that eventually there will come a time where I do have an interest but then I think why bother dating? It's all about looks. At least in the beginning it is. Yeah, maybe once you date for a little bit the guy might care about your personality.. but how do you get the attention of that guy in the first place? Looks.
So here's the bottom line: I'd like to date eventually but I know my make-up less face will be a huge disadvantage. Oh well. I don't like the feel of make-up, it feels icky, and dirty. I choose my comfort and personality (just never been girly) over impressing guys. If a guy refuses to talk to me because I don't like wearing make-up, oh well. Not a guy I want to be with. And A LOT of guys care about looks no matter how much they deny it.
Why worry so much about what others think of you?
You go to college to learn and be educated for a career (in theory), you do not pay all that tuition money and spend all that time to learn how to drink, date and party.
I stated in my post college and education is my main focus. I have no interest in drinking and party. You know the immature guys I mention in the beginning? I consider them immature because that's all they do: drink and party. I'm just concerned about how society as a whole thinks, in general.
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Originally Posted by burgler09
Another college freshman who knows it all.
Another person who assumes that because I'm a college freshman I must think I know it all. I don't. I posted an opinion and I'd like to get some input. Input that is useful.
To me, it just seems like people date for the wrong(well, what I think is wrong) reasons. It's all based on looks, "oh she's hot" or "oh, he's sexy" and superficial things.
Yes, but if you're good looking, things are awesome for you.
So, why would you not take advantage and enjoy the spoils?
Just because you are in college now does not automatically change anything, you are still a kid. I think some of the things I did in college were some of the most immature things I have ever done in all my life, so do not be surprised with what others are doing. You will meet plenty of mature students in college, but dating should not be the number one goal on your mind, it should be succeeding in college. Good luck, have fun, date if you want or if time permits.
Yes, but if you're good looking, things are awesome for you.
So, why would you not take advantage and enjoy the spoils?
I don't enjoy wearing makeup. Not going to change who I am for a guy or anyone else.
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I don't like the feel of make-up, it feels icky, and dirty. I choose my comfort and personality (just never been girly) over impressing guys. If a guy refuses to talk to me because I don't like wearing make-up, oh well. Not a guy I want to be with. And A LOT of guys care about looks no matter how much they deny it.
