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21
Female
Never seriously Drank-I've never been drunk
Virgin
Weird--social awkward and isolated
No Friends--People think i'm weird
Small Family (only 2 other family members) My extended family consists of three more people
Live Alone
Anxiety--Social and Emotional
BDD (Body Dysmorphic Disorder)
Bored-- Lack of stimulation
Terminated from Job
Now work part-time
Took Time off school..for what? Lack of motivation
You are female. That is the first step towards finding a man. What are you doing to improve yourself in other aspects of your life?
Although I will take the advice of that one poster in saying that I should volunteer. I'll get it a go.
Volunteering is an EXCELLENT idea.
Also, if you meet an older gal while volunteering or whatnot and get to know her maybe you could ask her for advice? A mentor, especially one that knows your area and culture etc. can be valuable.
Location: Huntersville/Charlotte, NC and Washington, DC
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Originally Posted by Beilua Rose
There WAS potentially "someone"..
Then fate happened.
Everything after that toppled over.
Although I will take the advice of that one poster in saying that I should volunteer. I'll get it a go.
I had two potential "someones" who are either married or pretty close enough. All you can do is rebuild and come back strong. I concentrate on getting rebuilt first.
I had two potential "someones" who are either married or pretty close enough. All you can do is rebuild and come back strong. I concentrate on getting rebuilt first.
Isn't it sad? How it just has to happen "like that".
21
Female
Never seriously Drank-I've never been drunk
Virgin
Weird--social awkward and isolated
No Friends--People think i'm weird
Small Family (only 2 other family members) My extended family consists of three more people
Live Alone
Anxiety--Social and Emotional
BDD (Body Dysmorphic Disorder)
Bored-- Lack of stimulation
Terminated from Job
Now work part-time
Took Time off school..for what? Lack of motivation
All of that is fine and dandy and really not all that important in attracting/finding potential dating partners, well, except for the BDD. What exactly is that?
Also, for most guys, physical attraction is extremely important, ESPECIALLY at the early stages so you left out what are probably the most important specs:
1. Weight
2. Height (just to make sure you are height/weight proportional)
All the other stuff you mentioned is either not important or can be easily overlooked if your weight/height are in order.
All of that is fine and dandy and really not all that important in attracting/finding potential dating partners, well, except for the BDD. What exactly is that?
Also, for most guys, physical attraction is extremely important, ESPECIALLY at the early stages so you left out what are probably the most important specs:
1. Weight
2. Height (just to make sure you are height/weight proportional)
All the other stuff you mentioned is either not important or can be easily overlooked if your weight/height are in order.
I see. She still needs to make sure her weight and height are in order or she's facing an uphill battle in attracting guys.
If I read that correctly, she might be complaining about that, too, so she might even be driving some men away because she complains about herself so much.
I mean I don't know, at this point I'm just an armchair psychologist.
21
Female
Never seriously Drank-I've never been drunk
Virgin
Weird--social awkward and isolated
No Friends--People think i'm weird
Small Family (only 2 other family members) My extended family consists of three more people
Live Alone
Anxiety--Social and Emotional
BDD (Body Dysmorphic Disorder)
Bored-- Lack of stimulation
Terminated from Job
Now work part-time
Took Time off school..for what? Lack of motivation
Are you seeing a therapist or mental health professional? If not, then might I suggest you do so.
They will be able to help you a lot better than this or any other internet messageboard will.
I think it's ironic that i said that i have social anxiety disorder and then people are telling me to get up and talk to people!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Don't you think if it was that easy i'd have an actual life right now??
Seriously sweetie, try to see a mental health person about this. They might be able to prescribe you something, in addition to some mental exercises that will help you get past this.
Google "mental health forums". Many of them have a wealth of info and they're very understanding of issues like yours.
*Hugs*
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