Ladies of online dating: Do you ever regret not responding? (married, girls)

[cwamjn]

Originally Posted by Pimpy

If you're a chick who sends me a message on a dating site and I don't respond, take it as a major insult. I respond to just about anyone who doesn't have 12 chins, a goatee, or several missing teeth.

I funnel the chicks who email me into two categories: booty calls I'm okay with my friends seeing me with ; and booty calls I keep on the d-low.

You are a scavenger. Sort of like the vulture of the dating world.

[stepka]

Originally Posted by Pimpy

If you're a chick who sends me a message on a dating site and I don't respond, take it as a major insult. I respond to just about anyone who doesn't have 12 chins, a goatee, or several missing teeth.

I funnel the chicks who email me into two categories: booty calls I'm okay with my friends seeing me with ; and booty calls I keep on the d-low.

Ouch, if they're all like you, I have more chins than I thought I did--I have reached out several times and haven't heard back from them and it was too hard on my ego so I stopped. Maybe I don't come off as a booty call though and that's just fine by me.

[Info Guy]

If she does not find your pictures attractive then nothing else matters. I've had women give me their number without really getting to know me.

90% of the women in my area have 1 or more kid and out of shape.

Originally Posted by subPrimeTime

Obviously online dating is a numbers game, whether you're on Match, PoF, OkC, etc. Both men and women have felt regret in some ways when it comes to relationship opportunities, but we know that 98% of the time it's the man who messages the women first (or in real life, approaches the woman first). Therefore, the woman is confronted with a decision to respond or not. It's right there in your hands.

So ladies, do you ever regret the decision to not respond to a guy who may have been pretty cool, funny, yet wasn't your ideal? Or perhaps he "fell" through the cracks as you may have been inundated with lots of messages at the time? Have you ever gone back to his profile after a few months just to get back on his radar?

The rare wink or message I get online is nearly always from unattractive women who sometimes have kids, are divorced, etc, which is not what I want. So, I have no regrets in not responding to them.

For guys, our regret is usually "Damn I should've approached that girl at the bar" or "should've messaged that girl", ie the decision to iniate or not.

[Info Guy]

Originally Posted by SomeGuyInFairfax

Women get so many responses online that it is impossible to reply to all of them. So they have no choice but to be superficial in their filtering, otherwise it would be a full time job.

The attractive ones get a lot of messages but you would really have to be unique and stand out. You can't just write one line. Make her feel that you were the only girl messaged that day.

[Info Guy]

Originally Posted by Pimpy

If you're a chick who sends me a message on a dating site and I don't respond, take it as a major insult. I respond to just about anyone who doesn't have 12 chins, a goatee, or several missing teeth.

I funnel the chicks who email me into two categories: booty calls I'm okay with my friends seeing me with ; and booty calls I keep on the d-low.

What if a dude messages you?

[Miss J 74]

Nope. Mainly because there are very few things that I will write a person off for. While I did get inundated with responses, most I was able to write off pretty quickly. Especially the ones who completely ignored my set parameters. For instance lived way too far, old enough to be my father, etc.

I realized when I tried the breezy, witty approach, bam a million responses, but only maybe 1 or 2 people I clicked with over the phone.

When I changed my ad completely and went the brutally honest route, it narrowed my responses a great deal. I figured it was better to get responses from guys who would actually be interested in me than some dude who was playing the numbers game or looking to get laid.

[ChessieMom]

Originally Posted by subPrimeTime

So ladies, do you ever regret the decision to not respond to a guy who may have been pretty cool, funny, yet wasn't your ideal? Or perhaps he "fell" through the cracks as you may have been inundated with lots of messages at the time? Have you ever gone back to his profile after a few months just to get back on his radar?

The rare wink or message I get online is nearly always from unattractive women who sometimes have kids, are divorced, etc, which is not what I want. So, I have no regrets in not responding to them.

No. If the communication was a respectful one, and I was not "feeling it", then I communicated that back. Nothing to regret.

[Raptor76]

I don't get how you can have regret over someone you never met or will never know anything about.

[Currency Pair Crocodile]

Couple days ago, a Japanese girl sent me a nudge. This would the crocodile's first jab at the Asian market. Diversifying my portfolio.

I never email anyone. Girls respond to tall white dudes only. And black studs who look like those in interracial porn.

[Whyte Byrd]

Originally Posted by subPrimeTime

The rare wink or message I get online is nearly always from unattractive women who sometimes have kids, are divorced, etc, which is not what I want. So, I have no regrets in not responding to them.

Wait! You avoid...won't date...dismiss anyone who's divorced?