A moral dilemma - what would you do? (wife, married, younger)
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I have a friend who had an affair with a married man.
He had chased her and chased her and she finally gave in at a weak moment, after months of pestering (he was also her boss).
Two days after he finally slept with her (a total non-event), he ended her contract and she became unemployed.
Fast forward a couple of months, and she received a letter from the Health Department telling her she had been exposed to a venereal disease. She went and got tested and it came back positive. Due to the timing involved, it is unlikely the married boss gave it to her...it was chlamydia, which has no symptoms, so she could've contracted it from anyone in her past.
The dilemma - she is legally obliged to report all of her sexual partners so they can be followed up medically. Should she tell the married man/Health Dept? The wife is in the middle of her child bearing years and quite possibly wanted more children, having 2 little ones already. Untreated chlamydia can cause all sorts of problems including fertility.
Does she have a moral responsibility to tell the married man...he chose not to use any protection, and quite possibly carried the infection back to his wife.
If I were in her position I would. Like you pointed out it wouldn't just be him affected. The best way to stop the spread of these kinds of diseases is to notify those at risk so that they can take precautions. Of course they should have used a condom and didn't, but perhaps - hopefully - if he has contracted it he will be more responsible in the future. It isn't a given, but in theory it increases the likelihood. It protects everyone, not just him.
Hell no. He fired her for no reason and used it shamelessly (though she consented---stupidly!) She should have filed sexual harassment charges against him. I'm sure most people here will tell you she has a 'moral obligation' to tell him, but I vigorously dissent. He's a swine who used her for sex and then cruelly dumped her.
And I hope to hell she learns never to have unprotected sex again. She could have gotten pregnant from this pig as well as getting God-knows-what-else from this loser.
Yes, the right thing to do would be to inform her former lover...
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Originally Posted by MsAnnThrope
I have a friend who had an affair with a married man.
He had chased her and chased her and she finally gave in at a weak moment, after months of pestering (he was also her boss).
Two days after he finally slept with her (a total non-event), he ended her contract and she became unemployed.
Fast forward a couple of months, and she received a letter from the Health Department telling her she had been exposed to a venereal disease. She went and got tested and it came back positive. Due to the timing involved, it is unlikely the married boss gave it to her...it was chlamydia, which has no symptoms, so she could've contracted it from anyone in her past.
The dilemma - she is legally obliged to report all of her sexual partners so they can be followed up medically. Should she tell the married man/Health Dept? The wife is in the middle of her child bearing years and quite possibly wanted more children, having 2 little ones already. Untreated chlamydia can cause all sorts of problems including fertility.
Does she have a moral responsibility to tell the married man...he chose not to use any protection, and quite possibly carried the infection back to his wife.
Does she owe this jerk or his wife the truth?
...because she can be held liable if something should happen to her former boss and his SO.
...because she can be held liable if something should happen to her former boss and his SO.
Why? He's the one who didn't care about the consequences to his wife. She had no knowlege of what she was carrying therefore cannot be held responsible. He made the choice to not use protection.
Why? He's the one who didn't care about the consequences to his wife. She had no knowlege of what she was carrying therefore cannot be held responsible. He made the choice to not use protection.
Unless it was rape... she made a choice to go bareback as well.
What were the circumstances of her dismissal? That sounds like a lawsuit waiting to happen.
Yep, sounds like she need to talk to a lawyer with experience in employment discrimination. Let the lawyer handle the disclosure, best way to go based on my experience in this area.
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Yes, the right thing to do would be to inform her former lover...
