Rave: I had a date last night and it was awesome

[straight shooter]

The short relationships are a red flag and a concern but I wouldn't scratch someone just for that. It is possible that those relationships ended because the guys were no good. It can be hard for some people to find a good match.

[John13]

Originally Posted by MsAnnThrope

Sorry it didn't work out but you don't sound overly upset lol.

Re-read all of his posts. He does sound upset. Once there was high hopes.

OP - Sorry to hear it didn't work out. Kudos to you for making the effort. Don't let it get you down too much.
These things happen.

[Hobokenkitchen]

Originally Posted by Fargobound

I just thought I would give an update:

We’ve been out a few times and she’s still too hard to read. One minute she’s lively the next she’s meh.

I think the biggest red flag is the fact that her longest relationship seems to be measured in months.

I’m throwing in the towel on this one and I’m just going to fade away.

My longest relationship prior to marriage was 6 months and it only lasted that long because it was long distance!
Husband and I have now been married 9 years and there's nowhere else I'd rather be.

Also don't expect someone to be 'on' all the time. Some times she's lively, sometimes 'meh'. Yep, that sounds like real life to me and like she's being herself and not putting on an a constant act.

I wonder if you are one of those people who expect constant perfection from their partner? Life isn't like that. You have good times and bad. Ups and downs.

If you just don't like her as much as you thought you did then fine, but your posts raise more red flags to me than her behavior does.

Good luck.