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INMO this woman really has no shame. She asks her BF for money. I have never asked a man for money, and never will. She had no real reason to ask him for money...I think that this is a slippery slope, to her wanting him to support her all the time, for everything...
I wonder if this has happened often, and she has not paid him back...that is the real issue. And he finally got tired of it.
To be fair, I find cooking at home to be more expensive and work-intensive than going out.
At least if you do it all gourmet, etc.
It can be if the meal is fancy or if you have to buy all the ingredients. Usually though, in a typical house there will be at least some of the ingredients and usually there will also be a lot of left overs for the next day which will offset the cost. As far as time/labor aspect, I don't mind that, I actually think it's a good bonding opportunity. That wasn't my point though. If a girl only offers to cook in home meals for the guy and never takes him out, it's natural for the guy to think that's what she wants and to stop taking her out.
It can be if the meal is fancy or if you have to buy all the ingredients. Usually though, in a typical house there will be at least some of the ingredients and usually there will also be a lot of left overs for the next day which will offset the cost. As far as time/labor aspect, I don't mind that, I actually think it's a good bonding opportunity. That wasn't my point though. If a girl only offers to cook in home meals for the guy and never takes him out, it's natural for the guy to think that's what she wants and to stop taking her out.
Good point.
I would rather eat in than go out and eat crappy restaurant food any day of the week.
It's only a good bonding experience if you are both cooking. Not if one is all tied up in the kitchen and the other one is doing something else.
This poster comes in here to explain her story, but it's a bit more telling that she listed both of their incomes. 200k + vs 30K, is anyone really surprised by her behavior? If he's banking that much you should be thankful. You post on a message board to justify your behavior? hey what if the rent was due and he looked to you and said "I don't have it". He rightfully so should be upset, regardless of the $ amount it's about being responsible. As far as I can see the biggest mistake he's made is allowing you to live with him.
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To be fair, I find cooking at home to be more expensive and work-intensive than going out.
Sounds a bit lazy, no?
There's nothing work intensive about creating a hand prepared meal that treats your body right.
Saritaschihuahua,
I see you demand a man to pay for your dating expenses, take you out, pay bills, give money, etc. What do you bring to the table? Company and sex, am I correct?
There surely must be a reason why you're attempting to justify the cheapskate's ill behavior.
As to me, we're not discussing me. I bring to the table what I bring to the table.
Let me ask you - what do you bring to the table? Cheapness? (In case you still don't realize it, that's a negative attribute).
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Saritaschihuahua,
I see you demand a man to pay for your dating expenses, take you out, pay bills, give money, etc. What do you bring to the table? Company and sex, am I correct?
There surely must be a reason why you're attempting to justify the cheapskate's ill behavior.
Let’s see here, many people have said it already but here it goes…a guy pays for her roof, her bills, her vacations, her meals and drinks when they go out, etc. And she decides to go out shopping without a mere $20 in her pocket. Who goes shopping without money? The only thing she is supposed to do and she can’t? She has a job that pays her $35,000 and she can’t handle that simple little thing after this guy hands her everything in a silver platter?
So you say a guy that takes care of the mortgage, has a roof over her head, pays for her bills, takes her out on vacations, takes care of her meals and drinks, etc. while having a girl enjoy all that for free (buys groceries 2 or 3 times a month for 2 people only), is a cheap guy?
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As to me, we're not discussing me. I bring to the table what I bring to the table.
If you have a guy that buys you stuff, takes care of your meals and drinks, puts a roof over your head, gives you money, and so on while you offer company and sex, you know what that makes of you.
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Let me ask you - what do you bring to the table? Cheapness? (In case you still don't realize it, that's a negative attribute).
My girl and I romance each other, we take each other out, we both take care of the expenses, we both take the initiative, and so on. We’re a team. It’s not a one-sided relationship which seems to be what you prefer. In my relationship we are both givers and takers.
I answered, so how about you? What do you bring to the table? Company and sex?
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