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My life is passing me by. I never got with a girl because I was always in a hostile environment. I've finally escaped when I turned 24, (LOL). Now, I'm in another unfavorable situation (still safe, just...broke)
I've never really asked a lady out, not because I am afraid of her saying no, but I am afraid of her saying yes. I guess I'm afraid that somewhere down the line, she will realize that I am pathetic and then leave me. At least if I knew a woman would say no, I would initiate a quick conversation and then move on after the "rejection."
Now, I am a very good looking man. Think Chris Rock with Dreads. That is only slightly less attractive than Shrek with Jheri Curls, or Quasi Moto with an Afro. So why am I more afraid of acceptance than rejection?
I'm just being real and sharing (some laughs).
But yeah, I am really more afraid of acceptance than rejection.
Can anyone relate, or am I a weirdo? (Please tell me that I'm a weirdo)
Last edited by TJenkins602; 08-06-2012 at 01:43 PM..
No woman wants a guy who thinks of himself as pathetic. You need to work on your self esteem first, learn to love yourself and your life, before you can find someone that will love you. Some guys tend to think that they are pathetic and lead a pathetic life, but if they could onoly land a girlfriend, their life would change to great overnight. It doesnt work that way. Create an interesting life for yourself, along with healthy level of self confidence and self esteem, and women will pick up on that, without you having to say it or even demonstrate it.
ME: That's... great!!! I'll let him know (Starts to run)!
WOMAN: You've asked me if I wanted to go out with you!
ME: No, I asked you if you want to go out with Mi. Ronnie Mi, the foreign exchange student. (Runs and jumps out the door)
Lady swings a whip that wraps around TJenkins602's waist
LADY: (Scorpion's Voice) GET OVER HERE!!!
Poor lady.
She was really hot too.
(Okay, that was just an extreme example. I didn't run out on her, the date is on for this friday)
I think it might be a commitment issue. I just feel a little inferior when I'm with a woman, no matter how she feels about me. When they say no, it takes a little pressure off of me.
Last edited by TJenkins602; 08-06-2012 at 02:29 PM..
You still feel damaged from your childhood. You avoid intimacy- a close relationship- because you don't want others see that you're damaged. You have trust issues because the people you loved first- your parents- broke your heart.
You need to heal your broken heart before you trust anyone else with it.
No woman wants a guy who thinks of himself as pathetic. You need to work on your self esteem first, learn to love yourself and your life, before you can find someone that will love you. Some guys tend to think that they are pathetic and lead a pathetic life, but if they could onoly land a girlfriend, their life would change to great overnight. It doesnt work that way. Create an interesting life for yourself, along with healthy level of self confidence and self esteem, and women will pick up on that, without you having to say it or even demonstrate it.
That's how it should be. But, for some reason, I attract girls no matter what I think about myself. I'm really trying to work on myself and keep everything simple, but when those legs open up, you know I come divin' LOL!!!
I'm puttin up a sign sayin "UNDER CONSTRUCTION." or something like that.
But, yeah, I agree with what you are saying. True words.
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