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I think people tend to judge those of their own gender more harshly. For example, I could see a moderately attractive man out and about, and then see his girlfriend/wife next to him and think "He's with her? She got lucky.". I think a lot of women do this, consciously or not. When I see a complete knockout women with just an average guy, I never think that.
As a woman who has almost exclusively dated men who made far less than her, it has less to do with the woman wanting to 'date up' or date a wealthy man, and far more to do with the fact that men think it's a blow to their masculinity if their 'woman' makes more than they do.
These days, with so many men unemployed or underemployed, it's becoming more common for the woman to make more. I know couples who have been together 10 years or more. The wife in these couples is always the brainy one: banker, director of non-profit w/an M.A., high-powered real estate agent. They guys in all instances work in construction or are handymen, and aren't very bright. But their wives don't seem to see that, or don't mind. All these couples are very happy, money isn't an issue.
I dated a guy whose tall dark and handsome good looks faded before me the more I learned what a loser he was.
On the other hand, I have been attracted to less-than-than-perfect looking men who had infectious senses of humor and were successful in life and career. These things can be "attractive", especially in later years when looking for "cute" is no longer the be all end all. Unfortunately, most of those are happily married as well!
I would also like to add some regional differences. Up here in NYC I know some women who moved here from the deep south. These women are cute next door type of bang able women and I know a couple who are like trailer trash type but not like really. They dont date cute attractive guys, one dates a short chubby guy and another one dates a chubby tall guy. I have discussed dating in the big city and these women told me that they have notice women here in NYC tend to go for physically attractive guys, also they also observed how men here hit on almost anything.
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Originally Posted by boolouwho
I think people tend to judge those of their own gender more harshly. For example, I could see a moderately attractive man out and about, and then see his girlfriend/wife next to him and think "He's with her? She got lucky.". I think a lot of women do this, consciously or not. When I see a complete knockout women with just an average guy, I never think that.
I wonder if men do this too.
Oh yeah, I think 'that lucky bastard', but it's not jealousy for more like, 'good on ya mate,' lol.
Funnily enough I seem to NOTICE average girls with good looking guys more often...
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Ive seen alot of.thst as of recently. Plent of average to below average women with above average guys in looks.
Yes, it's totally common for a guy to overlook looks in favour of other things.
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