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What you are describing is just a bad marriage - not the difference between men and women. I've never made my husband sleep on the couch and he's never had online sex with another woman. Sex is something we enjoy with each other - it's not a tool or a weapon.
That's why I said very often. I don't claim every woman does that but I have seen it first hand and heard similar stories so many times to understand it is unfortunately the norm.
The "sleeping on a couch" joke is so old yet still being repeated.
I think it goes back to realization that most people marry for the wrong reasons. You can look for compatibility and "soul mate", it's undeniably improtant, as I get older I realize that if there is no spark in the bedroom the whole thing will derail very fast.
Relationships in my opinion are mostly based on great sex and attraction, you can build the rest around with a smart person.
You can't however just build great sex no matter how hard you try and without great sex people, both men and women, will look for it outside.
Nyanna, I'm happy to know you are with me, not living under a rock.
I don't understand how someone can say my post is fishy. Dewdrop, you browse the internet, so I don't understand how you have not seen such. *confusing*
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I don't see anything fishy about the OP's post at all. There are married men who regularly watch porn, and their wives are told to turn the other cheek because it's a "man thing" to do. So, if a married men will watch porn, what is so out of the ordinary about him 'liking' booty models on his facebook page? Lots of men in relationships do this. This is a particular aspect of men that I don't like. and sometimes I feel like I'd be better off single than have a boyfriend/husband always jerking off to women who look nothing like me.
Nah. That's naive. After a while we all get it, both men and women. The question is who will prevail?
It's not a secret that wives and to lesser extent girlfriends have been using sex as a leverage, we all know it. We all joke about "sleeping on the couch" as a result of marital argument with our spouses. Many men in these situations escape into on-line sex as a recourse against such sex-terrorism.
Let's say my wife doesn't want to sleep with me or be playfull in bed so I can go on-line and pretend to have a great sex with a willing partner without actually cheating on her.
Very often women who are using sex as leverage or simply married a guy they don't find attractive or worthy of real sexual attention, are themslves guilty of pushing their men into on-line sex. Sex should not be a tool to control someone. When you position it this way it loses its value as a creator of a bond. It becomes a tool.
Speak for yourself and your own experiences.
What you describe above has certainly not been mine
Really? I just took a quick peek at a few of my friends (I'm not going to waste an entire day looking at all of them) - and none of them had any "likes" that were even close to what the OP was talking about. They were all movies/TV shows/athletes/political stuff/music/broadway shows/etc.
Dewdrop, that's also the majority of things my friends like. However, for a long time I just accepted "friends" on FB who were names I recalled from high school, people who sought me out as our graduating class from the middle of BFE began to kind of congregate. I didn't want to be antisocial, and it didn't really matter so much, so I just accepted.
Little by little as curiosity struck me... do I recall this person...? what are they like now...? so I began to browse a bit. Most were ordinary folks. [insert name here] likes NCIS... [Bubba Bo Bob] likes Taco Bell...
There were some, however, who "liked" loads of pages such as "Men who like big butts" or "Men who like an hourglass shape" or "Women who loves cowboys" (complete with muscular, nearly-bare buns), etc, etc.
As I've said in other threads, much of this kind of thing is regional. To be quite honest I don't even think networks show the same commercials in every region of the country, but break things down by statistic and demographic accordingly.
I know certain behaviours are just unheard of in some areas and quite common in others (ref the recent thread about behaviours of some women in the Midwest region).
Yeah, it's NOT as common as some would have us believe; but it's FAR from unheard of, these kinds of reprehensible behaviours.
Nyanna, I'm happy to know you are with me, not living under a rock.
I don't understand how someone can say my post is fishy. Dewdrop, you browse the internet, so I don't understand how you have not seen such. *confusing*
Wow -- she certainly doesn't need me to defend her, but if that's your assessment of Dewdrop then I would say you've got to be basing this entirely off both your disagreement with her AND the input from a single thread. I haven't always agreed with her but I DO find her generally quite astute. And yet in the same post you figure Nyanna isn't living under a rock.
Dewdrop93, I sort of feel bad for you. You come across as basic. The type of woman that believes everything your man says (not saying you shouldn't but some things are questionable).
Such as this: It seems that your man can not come home for 2 weeks and you wouldn't dare question it. You are the perfect woman for a lot of men; men tend to love women that don't have a clue!
You seem like the type that thinks your relationship is sooo perfect and is blinded to the truth.
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I guess I just surround myself with a better class of people. I don't know any married man that "likes" those kind of pages on Facebook.
Dewdrop93, I sort of feel bad for you. You come across as basic. The type of woman that believes everything your man says (not saying you shouldn't but some things are questionable).
Such as this: It seems that your man can not come home for 2 weeks and you wouldn't dare question it. You are the perfect woman for a lot of men; men tend to love women that don't have a clue!
You seem like the type that thinks your relationship is sooo perfect and is blinded to the truth.
Dewdrop93, I sort of feel bad for you. You come across as basic. The type of woman that believes everything your man says (not saying you shouldn't but some things are questionable).
Such as this: It seems that your man can not come home for 2 weeks and you wouldn't dare question it. You are the perfect woman for a lot of men; men tend to love women that don't have a clue!
You seem like the type that thinks your relationship is sooo perfect and is blinded to the truth.
You are exactly right! My husband often disappears for weeks, months, years at a time - and I never question him because I'm too simple to think of a question! In fact - I haven't seen him for a few months now - but he said he was going to the store so I'm sure that the line is just reeeeallllyyy long.
Lol!
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