Have You Been Rejected Based on Your Race or Ethnicity? (younger, family)
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Originally Posted by Joy74
Wow. Thought I was the only one that experienced this, except it was a White Brazilian roomate. When her parents found out that her roomate (me) was Black, they got her off campus housing. I came back from class one day, and she and her things were gone. Just like that. Then when I saw her on campus, she acted like she didn't know me. Wouldn't even make eye contact. Also, the Asian parents use to request that their kids not be roomed with Black students as well. This was in the S.F. Bay Area. I could go on for days with stories like that, but I won't.
How humiliating for you . Perhaps they believed some stereotypes that black kids were into drugs or gangs or something like that?
When did I say that it was horrible or implied it? No need to defend it. No need to assume things that aren't there. If Person A doesn't like Person B because of Person B's race then Person A isn't worth that Person B's time. What don't you comprehend?
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Originally Posted by Yellow Jacket
I'm not offended at all. I was confused by you assuming that I thought it was horrible. You want to just say stuff? I doubt it. I believe there was a point to me behind it so I was confused.
Reading the comments here, does this mean as a mulatto (Cuban- well black with a hint of spanish/British) I'm royally screwed? Because it explains so much about many past rejections.
Really don't like the idea that I have to be restricted to one race because society says so.
If you're a woman you should definitely hit me up.
At what point do we become Americans? Italians, Irish, Chinese, and many more immigrated here and didn't seem to have problems with marrying the people already living here. I don't get it, honestly. Its going to be hard to assimilate if everyone in the family is marrying people from the exact same part of the world pre-immigration. If one is going to insist, for instance, on only dating other Tamil, then why the eff did they come to America to begin with? Why not stay in India or Malaysia? If one is only going to date hispanics, then why not do everyone a favor and move south of the border or to Spain! I can understand Muslims or conservative Christians or Buddhists and whatnot not wanting to date outside their faith, but it comes across as very very racist and very un-American to insist that because someone is white or black or assimilated American or bi-racial that they are not dateworthy because they might not like vegimite or might not love your mother's cooking that comes form Pakistan. And lets face it here: its those of us who come from lineages that have been here longer who are having this problem with more recent immigrants.
What even gets me more is I hear from Mexicans, and Indians, and Pakistanis, and Malaysians, and Chinese and everyone else about how their parents aren't "American" enough, how Mom and Dad are backward, and they wish their families were more "Americanized" but in the same breath they admit they won't date anyone who doesn't have that same background. I met a guy here once who spent the first 20 or so minutes I met him ranting about how backward his family was, how stubborn they were, that they were still doing arranged marriages and only with people from the exact same part of India his parents came to America from, and then, the next time I met him..."whoops, sorry, I only date Indian women." And to be honest, it isn't just the immigrants of color who do this either, I've heard of and ran into whole pockets of white South Africans, Australians, and even British people who won't date people who are not also expats/immigrants from their respective countries.
In the end, you never know if someone is going to have a hard time with your cultural background until you give them a chance. I'm starting to get to a point where if a guy has an obviously non-American accent, or is obviously the child of immigrants I give him the cold shoulder no matter how hot he is. I'm obviously not the only one doing that, either, because I've heard the whining about that too, the "*sniffle sniffle* Americans who've been here forever won't give me a chance" line.
I don't really care about race, the last few women I've been on dates with were white, Chinese and Japanese.
I don't know what the hell's going on with the Indians in the US..it seems like coming to the US has made them very different to the ones I know! Italian Americans are nothing like Italians from Italy and UK.
What do you guys make of this -I'm of Indian heritage, born and raised in UK. I refuse to date girls who are born and raised in India - does that make me a racist?! I love Indian women from UK
Cultural stuff is a big deal...I feel almost nothing in common with people who are from India.
I don't really care about race, the last few women I've been on dates with were white, Chinese and Japanese.
I don't know what the hell's going on with the Indians in the US..it seems like coming to the US has made them very different to the ones I know! Italian Americans are nothing like Italians from Italy and UK.
What do you guys make of this -I'm of Indian heritage, born and raised in UK. I refuse to date girls who are born and raised in India - does that make me a racist?! I love Indian women from UK
Cultural stuff is a big deal...I feel almost nothing in common with people who are from India.
Yes, I'm the same way. I wouldn't want to date someone traditional or conservative from Malaysia either...the thought of their parents alone is horrifying haha.
What even gets me more is I hear from Mexicans, and Indians, and Pakistanis, and Malaysians, and Chinese and everyone else about how their parents aren't "American" enough, how Mom and Dad are backward, and they wish their families were more "Americanized" but in the same breath they admit they won't date anyone who doesn't have that same background. I met a guy here once who spent the first 20 or so minutes I met him ranting about how backward his family was, how stubborn they were, that they were still doing arranged marriages and only with people from the exact same part of India his parents came to America from, and then, the next time I met him..."whoops, sorry, I only date Indian women." And to be honest, it isn't just the immigrants of color who do this either, I've heard of and ran into whole pockets of white South Africans, Australians, and even British people who won't date people who are not also expats/immigrants from their respective countries.
Forest through the trees syndrome. 'Judge, lest not you be judged' comes to mind. Same reason why many people on here declare theirselves so open minded and progressive in one breath and proceed to throw a Stereotype out there of another group with the next. Everyone is guilty of this to some extent: Ghandi, Mother Theresa and the Dali lama all come to mind, no one is 100% exempt.
Last edited by LS Jaun; 10-03-2012 at 11:50 AM..
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. Perhaps they believed some stereotypes that black kids were into drugs or gangs or something like that?
And to be honest, it isn't just the immigrants of color who do this either, I've heard of and ran into whole pockets of white South Africans, Australians, and even British people who won't date people who are not also expats/immigrants from their respective countries. 