My dear, I just looked at your profile and your posts. There is definitely some issues here... To recap-
Mid August, your 2 year, long distance relationship, verbally abusive, anger issues, 'fiance' wants to get back with you after you moved from Cal to Ohio to be with him, he started 'dirty texting' other girls, you destroy $3000 of new furniture that you bought, and move back to Cal. So he wants to get back with you but he doesn't want anything known publically due to what his mother and 'people' would think... You profess that you are deeply in love with him and wanted a fairy tale wedding...
http://www.city-data.com/forum/relat...l#post25678278
http://www.city-data.com/forum/relat...l#post25746937
Mid September, You meet 'Tom' at the beach and he wants to hang out with you later that night but your friend grabs phone and wants him to bring his friend for her, so Tom cancels. It appears that Tom wanted to be alone with you... 2 hours after talking to you on phone, he does not answer your texts anymore.
(I wonder why after just meeting you that day, he only wanted to be alone with you... Read between the lines, if a man has true interest in you, should be no problem having a couple of others around until you get to know each other better...)
http://www.city-data.com/forum/relat...l#post26113801
End September, you met a guy at beach, didn't say if Tom or not. You hung out, had sex and he was going to teach you how to surf... However, you have to always contact him and he doesn't always answer your texts and now you are worried...
http://www.city-data.com/forum/relat...l#post26297367
First October, assuming it was the guy from above, you hang out, he taught you how to surf and you had sex 2 weeks after meeting him. Now he ignores you and doesn't want pics of he and you posted publically.
http://www.city-data.com/forum/relat...l#post26337402
Still first Oct, you get arrested for disorderly conduct for being drunk while walking down the street, wearing a short skirt, you bend over to remove your shoes and the cop says that you were 'showing your butt'... You spend 8 hours in jail, have court in 30 days which may affect your student visa. You are 20 years old.
(It seems there would be a bit more to it than just that,...I'm just saying...)
http://www.city-data.com/forum/legal...l#post26427458
Mid October, you go over to your neighbors house to see a guy named Ryan that you are dating. He is asleep in his room, so you stay and hang out with his friends who were all drinking/drunk there when they start humiliating you, asking why you are there, telling you to leave...
(Quite a bit odd that college boys would do that to a 20 yo college girl. Not typical at all, something seems to be missing...)
http://www.city-data.com/forum/relat...l#post26506724
Same thread, you say that you have been seeing Ryan for 2 months
(According to my math, that would mean you started seeing each other mid August, not sure where Tom and the potential other guy was, not to mention the exfiance...)
http://www.city-data.com/forum/relat...l#post26507254
My take on this? You are not going to want to hear it...
You are in this country on a
'student visa' which, IMHO, means that you should be concentrating on your
education, and not chasing guys and partying, as you are a
guest here with a
purpose and obligation... If you want to party, it's called a tourist visa and its good for 6 months, no obligations, merely abid by our laws and leave or reapply when it expires...
Being arrested... Cops don't arrest young ladies for merely taking their shoes off... Really, ...they don't...
Young men don't run young ladies off for no reason... Really, they don't...
It seems that for whatever reason, guys don't want to be associated with you in a public fashion, and you seem to always have to chase them, then they ignore you, then you ask for help here...
It seems obvious that you are leaving many details out...
Step away from partying, chasing guys, keep your legs closed and do what you are here for,...concentrate on your education...and learning a bit of self respect wouldn't hurt either... You are not going to find a principe azul like this...
I am sorry to seem cold and blunt, however the obvious is obvious... Good luck in your endeavors and let us know what happens in court...