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Why is it that men think of women in such broad strokes?
The same reason why women paint themselves which such broad strokes such as "if we smile at you and make small talk with you then we're giving you the go ahead to pursue us". But we all know that not every woman that makes small talk with us and smiles at us is giving us the go ahead to pursue her.
The same reason why women paint themselves which such broad strokes such as "if we smile at you and make small talk with you then we're giving you the go ahead to pursue us". But we all know that not every woman that makes small talk with us and smiles at us is giving us the go ahead to pursue her.
Painting with broad strokes goes both ways.
Well, at least they are painting. Which is good since modern art is incomprehensible. Sometimes I think artists have lost mastery in their craft and think random ink blotches are ok.
Well, at least they are painting. Which is good since modern art is incomprehensible. Sometimes I think artists have lost mastery in their craft and think random ink blotches are ok.
Hehe. You should see some of the stuff at the MOMA in Chicago. Some that stuff make random ink blotches look like The Dance Class by Degas.
I ask because I always hear this from women online
"Don't approach me at the gym cause I just want to work out and not be bothered"
"Don't approach me at the bar cause I'm just there to drink and party with my friends"
"Don't approach me on the street because it's creepy"
"Don't approach me at the store because I'm just there to shop"
*Insert another situation where I don't ever want to be approached*
etc...etc...etc....
What options does that leave? Is there ever a time where women aren't extremely annoyed by male attention of any kind?
Frankly, I think few women appreciate being approached by men they don't know, period.
....... assumes that guys carry around a crystal ball which tells them if the girl is attracted to them or not
Okay, some guys may need a crystal ball to tell them if the woman is attracted to them or not - especially prior to approach. Unless the woman makes it blatantly obvious that she is (or isn't), which most of the time is not the case.
However, guys (unless they're dense) should NOT need a damn crystal ball to tell them if the woman is being positively receptive, indifferent, or closed to their approach. It's called being able to read people and recognizing body language and non-verbal cues. That is part of basic social skills, and an important life skill to have and essential to effective interpersonal communication.
The majority of decent guys will approach a woman they're interested in IF she's giving off an approachable vibe. During the conversation, the guy is listening and paying attention to HOW she behaves and responds, and proceeds as appropriate. It could culminate in asking her for her number, or simply just having a nice conversation to pass the time. If her receptiveness takes a negative turn, either subtly or outwardly, then the guy usually recognizes that and politely and gracefully brings the interaction to an end, and moves on with his life.
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Originally Posted by RogersParkGuy
Frankly, I think few women appreciate being approached by men they don't know, period.
I wouldn't go that far, although I think it's true that many women are initially a bit wary and not quick to warm up to strangers. I don't blame them, especially these days. The ball's in the guy's court to make her feel at ease. HOW he approaches (and presents himself) is far more important than the "where" or the "when", although location and time both still matter.
That said, if the guy already has an "in" of some sort prior to meeting the woman, then that is often a major plus. The obvious example is a mutual friend or acquaintance that introduces the guy and woman. Kinda similar to networking in the professional sense.
I've done classes, joined intramural sports, worked with a personal trainer, tried kickboxing, rock climbing, cycling and everything in between. Nope, still hate the gym. I do go hiking fairly often, but it's a good 20 minute drive and I can't really afford doing that 4 or 5 days a week with gas prices being nearly $5 a gallon right now. I'd love to walk around my neighborhood but I'm surrounded by winding roads and no sidewalks...I've actually been hit twice, luckily I was just tagged by the mirrors though.
Something happened this morning that cracked me up though, kind of off topic but it really describes the people where I live well. I put my tv up on craigslist late last night because I'm selling most of my stuff before I move to the east coast. This morning I had 7 emails, 5 of which were offering me weed in exchange for the TV It's REALLY hard to find someone that doesn't do drugs around here, which IS a dealbreaker for me.
As for my medication, I get a drug for an enzyme my body doesn't produce which means a 4 hour IV infusion every other week for life. It really messes with my metabolism and sugar levels and makes it really difficult to maintain and lose weight.
Those classes are excellent for body movement and burning calories but if you are looking to gaining muscle than you would need to lift weights.
Gas prices are very cheap where I live compare to the country. It is about $3 a Gallon here.
As for my medication, I get a drug for an enzyme my body doesn't produce which means a 4 hour IV infusion every other week for life. It really messes with my metabolism and sugar levels and makes it really difficult to maintain and lose weight.
I'm told the E Coast has better doctors. Especially NYC and parts of the NE. Maybe you'll be able to find a specialist who can offer some new meds or strategies to help mitigate the symptoms.
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