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I'm happier being alone because there are things that I can only have/enjoy this way and I wouldn't even if I was in a happy relationship. Besides, like I said, I know myself better than everyone and I know my personality would never fit what a LTR requires. There's no point in wasting people's time and disappoint them in the end. I'm very predictable to myself, sometimes I wish I wasn't.
Then as long as you are happy - that's all that matters!
The problem with the snippy snippy is that it is a permanent measure. You may think that you will never, ever, change your mind at this point, but people are flexible, and circumstances change. I'm not saying that you will fall head over heels in some romantic affair, but...just be careful about major choices like that. It's like getting a tattoo of a girl's name on your bicep or something....and then breaking up with her, and telling the next one that it's actually your mom (yeah right).
Then as long as you are happy - that's all that matters!
Thank you.
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Originally Posted by Inebriated Duck
The problem with the snippy snippy is that it is a permanent measure. You may think that you will never, ever, change your mind at this point, but people are flexible, and circumstances change. I'm not saying that you will fall head over heels in some romantic affair, but...just be careful about major choices like that. It's like getting a tattoo of a girl's name on your bicep or something....and then breaking up with her, and telling the next one that it's actually your mom (yeah right).
I'm well aware that it's permanent. And that's how it should be. I want children, hypothetically. However, we can never control how they turn out and you can't send them back if things go wrong. Besides, it's a huge financial burden and I can be well off now...but what about in 10 years? I think I could never sleep again if I had a child. There's no way to turn back when you have children.
Not having the possibility to have children erradicates the possibility of another unhappy human being/things goings wrong.
What's weird is needing to ask strangers on the internet if your personal life choices are okay.
I just wanted to know opinions from other people, of course my personal choices are mine. If what you said was true, this forum wouldn't even have a purpose to exist.
I'm happier being alone because there are things that I can only have/enjoy this way and I wouldn't even if I was in a happy relationship. Besides, like I said, I know myself better than everyone and I know my personality would never fit what a LTR requires. There's no point in wasting people's time and disappoint them in the end. I'm very predictable to myself, sometimes I wish I wasn't.
That's important, to know yourself well.
However, there is a chance that who you are now may be something different 10 years from now. There's also a chance you'll be the same. But, IMO very few people can gauge the future with complete accuracy. If you'd asked me 10 years ago if I'd be divorced and getting remarried, I would have laughed in your face and told you that you were crazy. It's just something to keep in mind, that what you want out of life at 29 may not necessarily be what you want at 39 or 49.
However, there is a chance that who you are now may be something different 10 years from now. There's also a chance you'll be the same. But, IMO very few people can gauge the future with complete accuracy. If you'd asked me 10 years ago if I'd be divorced and getting remarried, I would have laughed in your face and told you that you were crazy. It's just something to keep in mind, that what you want out of life at 29 may not necessarily be what you want at 39 or 49.
This personality trait 8my temper) has been like this since I was a small child. It hasn't changed, it won't change in 20 years. It will probably get worse as I grow older. I'm used to it but I would never expect others to put up with it.
That's why any relationship with me would barely make it to the first 6 months. After the "honeymoon" phase goes away, things get real.
I'm a single woman and 36 years old. You're a guy - single isn't necessarily something that's going to be viewed as a negative for the wider society. However, I've been on this site and gotten some rather patronizing comments about becoming a cat lady and whatnot.
Honestly, I've got awesome friends, some decent remaining family, a bunch of great dogs and a cat, a decent job and a raft of interests and hobbies. I'm living in probably the best place in the world for me to live and shaping myself into the kind of person I want to be.
The only problem is that I have a rather insane sex drive and I'm not into random hookups. So my overriding reason for wanting an exclusive relationship is, well, sex. I'm not looking to fall in love necessarily - I've been in love, and it was amazing until it ended. I'm glad it happened and ok if it never happens again - why force it, ya know?
But my advice is don't close yourself off to the possibility of an exclusive, long-term romantic relationship with someone you love. It's a great thing to experience, and so what if it ends? It doesn't erase the good times - and sometimes you can end it before things turn completely ugly, which is what me and my favorite ex did. There's nothing wrong with what you're doing, but don't miss out on something potentially awesome just because you've labeled yourself as a lifelong singleton. Remain open to possibilities.
Nothing wrong with it, but I don't think anyone can foresee the future. You may meet someone who rings your bell someday. I wouldn't hold yourself forever to anything you feel right now.
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