Broke up, slept together, and now... dating again?

[KenFL]

Originally Posted by Trinley

Wow, I must admit you're way more into this than I am. I'm sorry to confess I didn't read that, but I want to add an idea that I heard recently. A person reading into things can create any relationship they want. What really matters is whether you're happy in the relationship. It's up to the OP to know whether she's happy or not.

Did you mean that you didn't read the original thread post or didn't read my response?

Yes, people can believe whatever they want... When people start to justify their actions, it sets them off on a bad road... (Just blanket statements)

I agree with just being happy! Relax and enjoy life!

It really does appear that the guy really cares for her. I think that he doesn't want to be forced to say anything, and can't say that I blame him... When he feels it, he will say it... IMHO, I do believe that he will say it...soon...if she will back off of it for a while...and enjoy!

[lostconfusedanddazed]

Sorry, I didn't even realize there were replies to this thread! But I think you're right, Ken.

I've been just taking things slowly since I posted this thread. I'd say it's been a "compromise," but it doesn't feel like it has been for either of us. I haven't been demanding anything of him... and yet I've been getting the closeness and commitment I've wanted while he gets the drama-free time together he wanted. It's good... it's even made it easier to communicate and talk about stuff between us.

I think "slowing down," which I have tried before didn't work for me before because I never really mentally let myself relax... I treated it like a game. This time, I'm actually relaxing my expectations and realizing if he wants me, he'll put the effort in too. And it seems like he is now.

Thanks

[crankywithakeyboard]

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