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Honestly, I think he likes you but I think you may like him more than he likes you. And I don't think that's good enough. The fact that he is not priortizing more time for you now, at the beginning of a relationship, is a sign. Even if you became more serious, there is a bigger risk of him leaving you if he finds someone else given his current behavior. Guys don't like to commit and want to keep their options open and I think is what he doing right now. Unless he is the CEO and really has no time, I'd move on.
No just one job but his one of the top people at his work. Around me, he gives me all his attention. He treats me like a princess. He spoils me. He protects me. I feel so safe with him. He gives me everything I need that I don't need to ask for anything. He takes me out to nice, expensive places and he pays for all our dates. But we spend more time apart than we spend time together. I feel more unimportant than someone important to him.
He is successful at his work doesn't mean he can be successful in his marriage. you don't know how he became successful at his work. He takes you to nice places and pays for everything only means he has a credit card that can pay everything. Him making you comfortable may only mean he has had a lot of experience with women. Again, look at him through his external package. It is great that he is fun, attractive and educated. But is he dependable, trustworthy and honest? A man would spoil you one night and then screen you call or message the next day seems odd. Don't rush into any conclusion until you have all the facts. As said, if you already dumped him, nothing to regret about. If you haven't or come back to you, just go out with him and enjoy being spoiled because you deserve to be spoiled and he is willing to pay.
The fact that he is not spontaneous about answering your calls or messages may be because he is also with other women. Nothing wrong with that as long as he has the good intention. He has his right to pick and choose a good life partner before he gets settled. Dive into a relationship too fast is not very smart. If that is the case, give him some space and let him figure out that you are the best. You don't want to be chosen be coincidence, good timing.... You don't want him to think later on in his life that he settled for you. You want to be chosen because you have proven to him that you are the best to him and he will appreciate you much more and be faithful to you for the rest of your life. Otherwise, even if you married a rich and successful guy, you won't be happy. He won't treat you everyday like he treated you before he got you.
Before he makes any commitment to you, or at least show you his folks, don't expect to be treated like you are very important to him. He hasn't promised anything to you. He is simply just dating you and comparing you with other girls. So be patient.
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No just one job but his one of the top people at his work. Around me, he gives me all his attention. He treats me like a princess. He spoils me. He protects me. I feel so safe with him. He gives me everything I need that I don't need to ask for anything. He takes me out to nice, expensive places and he pays for all our dates. But we spend more time apart than we spend time together. I feel more unimportant than someone important to him.
Honestly, I think he likes you but I think you may like him more than he likes you. And I don't think that's good enough. The fact that he is not priortizing more time for you now, at the beginning of a relationship, is a sign. Even if you became more serious, there is a bigger risk of him leaving you if he finds someone else given his current behavior. Guys don't like to commit and want to keep their options open and I think is what he doing right now. Unless he is the CEO and really has no time, I'd move on.
I think you're right. I was thinking the same thing that's why I dumped him again. I don't want to get to the point where I'm too involved and its too hard to leave or he would find someone he likes more and dump me. I enjoy spending time with him but I've move on from him before so I know I can do it again. I just need to be strong and think about myself. Thanks for your advice.
That's what I always remind myself to stop regretting dumping him. I will meet someone who will make me feel important even were apart. Thanks for pointing it out.
He is successful at his work doesn't mean he can be successful in his marriage. you don't know how he became successful at his work. He takes you to nice places and pays for everything only means he has a credit card that can pay everything. Him making you comfortable may only mean he has had a lot of experience with women. Again, look at him through his external package. It is great that he is fun, attractive and educated. But is he dependable, trustworthy and honest? A man would spoil you one night and then screen you call or message the next day seems odd. Don't rush into any conclusion until you have all the facts. As said, if you already dumped him, nothing to regret about. If you haven't or come back to you, just go out with him and enjoy being spoiled because you deserve to be spoiled and he is willing to pay.
The fact that he is not spontaneous about answering your calls or messages may be because he is also with other women. Nothing wrong with that as long as he has the good intention. He has his right to pick and choose a good life partner before he gets settled. Dive into a relationship too fast is not very smart. If that is the case, give him some space and let him figure out that you are the best. You don't want to be chosen be coincidence, good timing.... You don't want him to think later on in his life that he settled for you. You want to be chosen because you have proven to him that you are the best to him and he will appreciate you much more and be faithful to you for the rest of your life. Otherwise, even if you married a rich and successful guy, you won't be happy. He won't treat you everyday like he treated you before he got you.
Before he makes any commitment to you, or at least show you his folks, don't expect to be treated like you are very important to him. He hasn't promised anything to you. He is simply just dating you and comparing you with other girls. So be patient.
I will focus on moving on.I don't want to think hes coming back. I want to think hes not the righ one for me and doesn't deserve my time.
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