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The ONLY reason age came into play was due to him needing to "find himself" at nearly 30 years old. I am long past those days... hence why age was mentioned. But to your credit, yes, correct.. when you're in a relationship and you've done all you can and are still not happy, indeed it is time to move on.
The ONLY reason age came into play was due to him needing to "find himself" at nearly 30 years old. I am long past those days... hence why age was mentioned. But to your credit, yes, correct.. when you're in a relationship and you've done all you can and are still not happy, indeed it is time to move on.
a person can go through a crisis at any point in time. have you never heard of a mid-life crisis? do you think it's beyond the realm of possibility that someone can have an awakening or perhaps an epiphany at essentially ANY point/stage in their lives?
while I certainly think that MOST people settle into themselves by their mid-to-late 20s, I think it's naïve to assume that our personalities, our passions, our motivations, our beliefs all remain static throughout our adult lives.
some people also might simply not have had the opportunities or experiences available to others to really find out what they like and who they are. I suspect this might've been the case with your ex.
For me, "finding himself" is a cop out for being lazy. It would be one thing if he kept moving on to something else (still taxing though), but instead he chose to do nothing after a couple of false starts. I think you did the right thing in ending the relationship since it had become one-way.
Thanks for creating this anti-interracial relationship propaganda thread. It really has been far too long since we've had on of those on C-D
You are SO WRONG about Ms. Andrea! She is one of the kindest,most generous and accepting people I've ever met on CD. Maybe you need to look in the mirror and start your criticism there? SO good to have you back Andrea! I wish it was under better circumstances.
"The moral of the story is, when you're in a relationship and your voice is not being heard and you've done everything you can. Once you start having those feelings that things are over? They are. Don't let it drag out because during the time it's being dragged on and on - you could be meeting a great guy."
This really hit home for me, as I'm in a kinda, sorta similar situation (not so much the age, racial differences, more the issues with cohabitation part), and I've been having a lot of the "It's over" feelings lately. Thank you for sharing. I really needed to see this.
You are SO WRONG about Ms. Andrea! She is one of the kindest,most generous and accepting people I've ever met on CD. Maybe you need to look in the mirror and start your criticism there? SO good to have you back Andrea! I wish it was under better circumstances.
I don't see where race comes into this picture at all?
You chose a guy who was kinda dead-beat with no motivation and put up with it for awhile.
This is what I was thinking. I don't see anything about race in the story nor how it relates. To me this is a tale about an older women becoming so c-ck sprung on a younger man, she moved this deadbeat into her house.
Next time, OP, just occasionally buy the younger guy a pizza. There is no need to actually support a guy for two years just to get laid. Don't let yourself get played by a younger man like this again.
I don't see where race comes into this picture at all?
You chose a guy who was kinda dead-beat with no motivation and put up with it for awhile.
Umm, I did say he was not the person he originally presented himself to be. When I met him, even though he was being pushed out of the military, he did have many goals and was very work oriented. So, what can i say? Lesson learned.. I'll stick to my gut feelings next time and while I'm taking this undetermined amount of time off, when the next guy comes around.. I'll listen to my intuition...
You are SO WRONG about Ms. Andrea! She is one of the kindest,most generous and accepting people I've ever met on CD. Maybe you need to look in the mirror and start your criticism there? SO good to have you back Andrea! I wish it was under better circumstances.
Thank you, Dan. It's okay. I full expected some negative responses. The fact is, it's a forum, everyone is entitled to their opinions however, I'm not one to just lie down and take it without sticking up for myself. I don't regret sharing my story and you know what? At least one person said "thanks" as they were going through something similar. I think my work is done..
And - it's good to be back.. I've missed those I got to know through our writings...
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