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Does anyone here get annoyed when they hear that phrase from a person, typically one who hasn't had good luck in dating. You would expect it would come from someone ugly, but I almost never hear it from one. Its either overweight people or mostly people with huge personality flaws. Why should people have to accept the fact that you are out of shape or that you have an abrasive personality. Most of the time when I hear this phrase it comes from people hard to deal with like type A personalities who don't know how to turn it off. I think its bad advice to give to tell it to someone because you should be the best person for your partner and if you have a bad personality, your partner shouldn't "accept" it.
Does anyone here get annoyed when they hear that phrase from a person, typically one who hasn't had good luck in dating. You would expect it would come from someone ugly, but I almost never hear it from one. Its either overweight people or mostly people with huge personality flaws. Why should people have to accept the fact that you are out of shape or that you have an abrasive personality. Most of the time when I hear this phrase it comes from people hard to deal with like type A personalities who don't know how to turn it off. I think its bad advice to give to tell it to someone because you should be the best person for your partner and if you have a bad personality, your partner shouldn't "accept" it.
I think if you're going into a relationship with someone, it shouldn't be with the intent or expectation of changing them. And some people really have no intentions of changing. So...yeah. I think it's true.
Does anyone here get annoyed when they hear that phrase from a person, typically one who hasn't had good luck in dating. You would expect it would come from someone ugly, but I almost never hear it from one. Its either overweight people or mostly people with huge personality flaws. Why should people have to accept the fact that you are out of shape or that you have an abrasive personality. Most of the time when I hear this phrase it comes from people hard to deal with like type A personalities who don't know how to turn it off. I think its bad advice to give to tell it to someone because you should be the best person for your partner and if you have a bad personality, your partner shouldn't "accept" it.
then if you cannot accept them, just do not date them.
Does anyone here get annoyed when they hear that phrase from a person, typically one who hasn't had good luck in dating. You would expect it would come from someone ugly, but I almost never hear it from one. Its either overweight people or mostly people with huge personality flaws. Why should people have to accept the fact that you are out of shape or that you have an abrasive personality. Most of the time when I hear this phrase it comes from people hard to deal with like type A personalities who don't know how to turn it off. I think its bad advice to give to tell it to someone because you should be the best person for your partner and if you have a bad personality, your partner shouldn't "accept" it.
Look, people have the right to be whoever they want to be and others who interact with them have the right to like them or love them, or even reject them.
As long as people understand that digging in their heels and sticking to all the bad habits they indulge in will mean they are greatly diminishing their chances of attracting quality partners, that is their right.
That may not be what you or I would choose to do, but it's not worth being upset when others make a different choice
Does anyone here get annoyed when they hear that phrase from a person, typically one who hasn't had good luck in dating. You would expect it would come from someone ugly, but I almost never hear it from one. Its either overweight people or mostly people with huge personality flaws. Why should people have to accept the fact that you are out of shape or that you have an abrasive personality. Most of the time when I hear this phrase it comes from people hard to deal with like type A personalities who don't know how to turn it off. I think its bad advice to give to tell it to someone because you should be the best person for your partner and if you have a bad personality, your partner shouldn't "accept" it.
I don't understand it either.
I also don't understand why people should "lower their standard".
I think everyone wants to be accepted for who they are. I guess you are taking issue with the people who voice this out loud. Well yeah, that is kind of lame but at least they are being honest and not deceitful. You'll know what you're getting with them.
I think everyone wants to be accepted for who they are. I guess you are taking issue with the people who voice this out loud. Well yeah, that is kind of lame but at least they are being honest and not deceitful. You'll know what you're getting with them.
I don't see anything wrong with this. I think it's wrong to enter into a relationship and then try to change someone who had certain attributes that you knew about BEFORE you started dating.
Does anyone here get annoyed when they hear that phrase from a person, typically one who hasn't had good luck in dating. You would expect it would come from someone ugly, but I almost never hear it from one. Its either overweight people or mostly people with huge personality flaws. Why should people have to accept the fact that you are out of shape or that you have an abrasive personality. Most of the time when I hear this phrase it comes from people hard to deal with like type A personalities who don't know how to turn it off. I think its bad advice to give to tell it to someone because you should be the best person for your partner and if you have a bad personality, your partner shouldn't "accept" it.
If you don't like them as they are--if you don't like their physique or their personality--why would you date them in the first place?
Besides, have you ever been someone's "project"? You get treated like a child, or worse, like an object. And that's denigrating and irritating. This is a person you're talking about, not a piece of furniture. You may not like the choices other people make, but those choices are theirs to make. And if you don't like their choices, you're perfectly free to walk away.
I also don't understand why people should "lower their standard".
Some people actually "raise their standard" when they get involved with others that challenge them on any level.
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