Girlfriend dumped me of six years

[Tinawina]

Originally Posted by dgmiller

exactly, i will be mature about it thank you. and yes it is hard because now that trust is gone. i have no trust in her now, whether it be seeing other guys and whether it'll be that she'll just do this again to me. we were completely fine the day before she did it to me too which makes it hard. and youre right its not like we broke up from cheating. and yes she is acting very immature lately through all of this. do you definitely recommend that i let her contact me?

I am definitely NOT recommending any contact. I think it's too soon and it would be too easy to slip back into it. Plus she's in her "did I make a mistake?" phase, which makes her dangerous. I would bet money this girl doesn't know what the hell she really wants right now. There's nothing to say she may want you now but change her mind again as soon as she got it.

I was just adding the caveat that you actually know the girl and we don't so ultimately you have to go with your own judgement.

If you do see her though, don't play any games. Just be yourself but be clear that youre not up for any shenanigans.

[dgmiller]

Thank you for letting me know I have a good head on my shoulder, it helps! I think I do, and that's why I'm definitely not playing games. I haven't paid an ounce of attention to her other than the day after she dumped me which was expected. And yes I'm going to give it at least a couple more months until we could maybe think of rekindling something. I would like to speak to her and let her know I'm doing my own thing and that I now need my space too. She told our friends that she was hoping we could all hang together but there's just no chance. I will go forward with the no contact, it just hard because she was all lovey with me the day before then was trying to be immature showing she was out with other guys the night she did it. She hasn't been getting anymore attention from what I've heard and it's killing her that I'm out having fun and staying fit and busy. It's hard to look into a meeting with her and not holding back on some things to say but I feel like if I just act cool shell be hurt that she's not having a huge effect on me.

[needanamethatisnttaken]

Originally Posted by dgmiller

I have been out seeing other girls and I have hooked up with one, but I wish I could "stop paying attention to the ex" but IDK if you can relate to me when you are with someone for 6 years it's hard to stop paying attention. Especially when all of my friends became her friends, and our families are very close. I wish I could trust me, but I'm not there yet. Just wanted to know what you guys thought about what she had said to our friends. Thanks for the help

I didn't say it was easy, I said you should do it.