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I don't mean having negative attitude towards the other gender (I'm not a misogynist at all) but I tend to have very negative view of my dating options. Whenever I see somebody I might be interested in, I make myself believe that they're not single and even if they were single, they wouldn't be interested in me. If I meet somebody and start interacting with them, I give up right away the second I feel like they are not responding to my attempts to engage them in some sort of pleasant conversation. This causes me to become even more pessimistic
Anybody else in the same boat as me? What causes this?
why would you even start a negative thread like this? Well misery loves company I guess. To answer your question, it's because you have a low view of yourself because you don't value yourself and have low self esteem...No woman likes negativity or pessimism
why would you even start a negative thread like this? Well misery loves company I guess. To answer your question, it's because you have a low view of yourself because you don't value yourself and have low self esteem...No woman likes negativity or pessimism
If this is true, it must be true on a subconscious level. I don't actively think that I'm a bad catch
If this is true, it must be true on a subconscious level. I don't actively think that I'm a bad catch
well it obviously is, you are saying you are giving up on certain people and convincing yourself that others are taken. Why do you think you don't deserve them?
well it obviously is, you are saying you are giving up on certain people and convincing yourself that others are taken. Why do you think you don't deserve them?
I tend to give up very quickly because I hate that feeling of when you're trying to engage somebody in conversation and you start to feel resistance (like they're not all that interested in you). I feel like you're fighting an uphill battle and tend to give up right away
As far as my negative views go, I guess I've always had that
I tend to give up very quickly because I hate that feeling of when you're trying to engage somebody in conversation and you start to feel resistance (like they're not all that interested in you). I feel like you're fighting an uphill battle and tend to give up right away
As far as my negative views go, I guess I've always had that
well 1. you have to change your negative views. 2. You can't force someone to talk to you. If they aren't interested and they won't talk to you then screw them. You are not going to be able to please everyone.
well 1. you have to change your negative views. 2. You can't force someone to talk to you. If they aren't interested and they won't talk to you then screw them. You are not going to be able to please everyone.
I've been trying to change my negative views for a while but it's hard. I've always felt like I'm doomed not to find anybody. As far as somebody not wanting to talk to me. It's not that - I never run into people who don't want to talk to me - it's when I attempt to talk to a girl and don't get any signs of interest at the beginning (she doesn't seem all that interested in talking to me), I tend to give up right away.
Everyone here loves dating like you wouldn't imagine. Just read some threads and you'll see.
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