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If a contemporary man somehow still thinks of marriage, he usually has one of the two main goals in mind:
- to get a trophy to reflect well on him (ego-related issues)
- to get a co-provider so they can live well on two incomes.
However, the latter is a weak argument because single men don't have that many needs so even a lower income can be just fine for one guy. Once a wife gets into the equation, children are on the horizon, and these little creatures nowadays can wreak havoc even on two hefty incomes.
So men indeed have very, very few incentives to marry nowadays. This is why you read about so many willing to go to the ends of the Earth in search of some Megan Fox. It's the only thing that seems to make marriage worthwhile for them. You would think they might at least want marriage for companionship - but even this is out the window because many young people today, both men and women, have Narcissistic personalities. They live between Facebook, Porn sites and football games on TV. Who needs a real companion during such times?
Pretty sad. I am glad I got to be on the dating market right before these sad societal changes started to take place...but I am still worried about my sister, and my children's future.
Then again, I keep thinking this might be the species' way of slowing down the reproduction rate; which might not be such a bad deal after all.
Or because they love each other want want to enjoy life together. Start a family. Geez people.
Agreed. I'd rather marry for love instead of thinking about "what's in it for me".
Such a succinct summary of what's wrong in the dating world today...so many people with the mindset of what they can "get" from someone rather than actually establishing a meaningful love connection and building a relationship.
If you think all people marry to "get something" out of it you are an idiot. I guess if get something out of a marriage means having a family and being able to share your life with someone you love then that is a worthwhile for most. Not everyone is marrying to get a tax benefit or because they unexpectedly got their gf pregnant.
If you think all people marry to "get something" out of it you are an idiot. I guess if get something out of a marriage means having a family and being able to share your life with someone you love then that is a worthwhile for most. Not everyone is marrying to get a tax benefit or because they unexpectedly got their gf pregnant.
The tax benefit (and other benefits) ARE all that you get from marriage.
At least they are the only things that you get exclusively from marriage. You can have a family and share you life with someone without getting married.
Why is this concept so difficult for people to understand?
I can't imagine any man today would really want to get married today and willingly be part of an institution. I suspect these men who do get trapped into marriage only sign that contract because either 1) these men were shamed by their families for not being "real men", 2) were brainwashed into thinking it's what you have to do by a certain age, 3) thought they could never get any better so they settled. Most men who are still trapped in marriages today probably deeply regret signing that piece of paper and warn their sons to never make the same mistakes.
The tax benefit (and other benefits) ARE all that you get from marriage.
At least they are the only things that you get exclusively from marriage. You can have a family and share you life with someone without getting married.
Why is this concept so difficult for people to understand?
I don't care. I will get married to my current GF and have a great life. You can live how you want, hopefully I never meet you though on the streets. You will probably be and old hunched back scrooge....not hard to miss.
Can't imagine how you can logically draw that conclusion.
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