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I understand what you're saying but from my experience this simply doesn't happen as often.
When I was younger I worked several nightclubs close to a miltary base & when the guy go TDY (temporary duty assignment) thier wifes/GF hit the clubs BIG time looking for some strange!
When I was younger I worked several nightclubs close to a miltarty base & when the guy go TDY (temporary duty assignment) thier wifes/GF hit the clubs BIG time looking for some strange!
Yes I've seen this as well.. I think that's why I have such a horrible thought of it all..
And to those that asked if I can trust myself: yes.
Ever heard of the "Dear John Letter"? This is very common. I believe it's more common than soldiers who cheat on their GF's (just due to logistics making it harder for soldiers to cheat).
What about you? Can you control yourself? Are you planning to be celibate the entire time you're deployed? How long will that be, btw? Is paying for sex to let of steam considered "cheating"? Relationships are built on mutual trust.
You've watched Top Gun (or any other 80's movie about the military) too many times
How many of you have heard or know about these stories? What is the reason do you think this happens most of the time? Because most military 'kids' get married for the benefits young and then deploy without having 'had' anything with that person in their hearts? Or is it because the girlfriend may get caught up 'in the moment' and do the deed? Is it because there were problems with the relationship to begin with and it was bound to end sooner or later?
I'm in the military and I love my girlfriend, she's in college, I'm obviously going to deploy sooner or later (already have a few times but not with a significant other back home) and although I trust her, the thought of 'college, parties, alcohol' destroy me about "what could happen" while I'm gone. She has quit an extensive past with having 'been around' (though never cheating on a bf) and I believe she has got that out of her system so to speak and she's done with that lifestyle.. but at the same time in the back of my mind it's just the "what if" aspect of things that bother me.. Mainly the college, parties, alcohol side of things. She knows how to control herself drinking but who knows.. after so much time of me being gone she might drink more than normal one night and maybe some guy will try to get with her and she'll let it happen.
Am I thinking worst case scenario? Or am I 'okay' to be thinking this? Do you only hear about cheating girlfriends of deployed boyfriends/husbands because that's the only news anyone wants to hear? (the bad news)
Simply, do I have any valid thoughts or worries? Would I know and be confident that nothing will happen if I 'truly' loved her? (I think I do but maybe then I wouldn't be having these thoughts if I really did)
I'm in the military too. Just the other day, the (ridiculously hot) wife of one of the enlisted guys under me (I'm an officer) wanted to "catch up with drinks"...even though we barely know each other (ie: she wants to f*ck).
I told my boss about this (we're really close) and he said that this is normal.
You can never be too sure of how a mate will conduct their behavior when the other is deployed. It's probably best to cut things off, because she will become vulnerable in your absence. It takes a unique woman with a strong backbone to ward of the feelings of loneliness, advances from men, etc.
You can never be too sure of how a mate will conduct their behavior when the other is deployed. It's probably best to cut things off, because she will become vulnerable in your absence. It takes a unique woman with a strong backbone to ward of the feelings of loneliness, advances from men, etc.
What is takes is a woman who is madly in love with you.
You've watched Top Gun (or any other 80's movie about the military) too many times
I don't watch military movies. I'm just realistic.
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