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I usually don't give it up so quickly...like I said that was my 2nd time...being 22 I honestly just recently lost my viginity last year so I'm doing quite well with that...I'm very picky with who I date and hang out with so I would understand if I ***** myself out but I dont. I'm not saying I regret it...it already happened so no use for crying over spilled milk.
I heard on the radio from a sex therapist (I think) that 90% of relationships in which the people had sex before 30 days didn't last a year. I'm no prude, but I can't help but think about this. You might try making a guy wait a month at least before having sex. As for this guy, I think you have to move on, or at the very least wait for him to contact you. Do not initiate contact. He hasn't treated you right and you have to decide if its worth it even if he does contact you. As for the depression over his mother, or whatever else is going on, he should have thought of that before going out with you. I've been depressed off and on for years, but whenever I met a woman I was interested in, I pursued her.
You have learnt the first in a long line of harsh lessons.
Sadly, you were brought up by your parents to believe in the fairy tale, you will meet Mr Wonderful and the two of you will pair off and drift into the distance happily ever after.
Reality is a different story.
In the real world, most youngish men (especially those on dating sites) will do and say literally anything, to get laid.
They don't even care who they are shagging, as long as they get it. This is not necessarily their fault, they are hunters by birth, and women the prey. We are weaker physically so we have to use our "feminine wiles" to win the game of love, not just sit there all innocent and trusting, like a wide eyed baby deer just waiting to be mowed down by a mac truck.
A lot of young men are not "Prince Charming Looking For The One". They are" Young Buck Feeling His Oats" (and anyone elses he can get his grabby little hands on). This drive does tend to fade with age and experience fortunately, which is when they usually "settle down".
This is particularly true for some men on dating sites, who tend to view the women available as items on a shelf in a supermarket, to be taken home, consumed, and tossed out afterwards.
If he stumbles over a very high class product in a relatively cheap can, he may keep it, other than that you may as well be plain pack for all the feelings he has for you.
Sorry, it's harsh I know. Get a copy of "He's Just Not That Into You" and read it, reread it if you have to. Get the basics through your head. If he likes you, he shows it. Period. He is not "depressed" or having family problems, he just doesn't care.
YOU should be in charge of your own love life, at all times. If he's not making you happy, he's not worth your time or your affections.
Forget him. He'll probably leave you on the back burner for a few weeks while he knocks off another couple of bambis, then call you up and say "hey" like nothing ever happened.
Sadly I think you got played. He got sex from you and now he's lost interest and moved on. Don't sleep with someone expecting it will change anything or think that because you had sex you're in a relationship. I agree he's full of excuses. If he wanted to make time for you he would. Lots of us have had to learn this lesson the hard way.
I'm sure someone has already stated it, but if not here it goes, he wanted sex, he got sex, now he's trying to find a way out of not speaking to you anymore. Sounds like he's trying to make it your fault, and drumming up excuses about problems with the family, I bet his mom is alive or has been dead for quite some time. But these my dear are excuses to break it off with you. Don't give it another thought, and it you're expecting someone to possibly be with you seriously after you have sex with them, then you need to state that from the beginning, and don't give it up on the second date or any time soon.
Sorry you had to go through this, but let this be a lesson.
Sadly I think you got played. He got sex from you and now he's lost interest and moved on. Don't sleep with someone expecting it will change anything or think that because you had sex you're in a relationship. I agree he's full of excuses. If he wanted to make time for you he would. Lots of us have had to learn this lesson the hard way.
All too true. I learned this the hard way when I slept with a guy very early in dating thinking we were dating, only to see him disappear. I figured out that sadly younger men in general (not all but many)do this and I suspect it is worse now because of online dating. It's one thing to sleep with someone just for fun with no expectations but if sleeping with a guy thinking it is a relationship is so bad on many levels.
OP wait till you hit 40 - all the men are totally desperate and would do anything for a wife - the ones I know, anyway. They all want love and someone to come home to.
The scenario is totally reversed - over 40ish women tend to not want men laying about on their sofas and hogging their remotes, so generally speaking, the older male languishes alone and unloved...especially the ones who used to think of themselves as "players".
What goes around, comes around.
You will likely get to shag then cruelly reject as many men as you choose, when you're a bit older.
,I'm really not but since we had sex I just wanted to know where we stood in this "relationship".
Perhaps you should find out where you stand before sleeping with someone. Probably a good rule of thumb.
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Hate to say this but...
