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Like people said, you're a fattie too. You shouldn't expect a better looking woman unless you have something else to offer that she doesn't. Hence it would become a mutually beneficial relationship. You are looking for something that you feel entitled to. You as a average man are not entitled to an above average looking woman in this modern society. Sorry.
Yes, the OP is calling the kettle black. I will add though, that females online are also a B team in aggregate, meaning they tend to be overweight too, and they tend to prefer to message guys who are physically at an entirely different fitness level than they are.
Online dating is concessionary by design. Work, school and social circles. Those are the three pillars of mainstream dating. Anything outside that is concessionary. Life ain't fair, but it is a choice.
I don't think you guys might completely understand where I'm coming from. I'm not looking for the Size 4's, but I think the 8's or 10's might be attainable. But I'm getting the 14's online.
I don't think you guys might completely understand where I'm coming from. I'm not looking for the Size 4's, but I think the 8's or 10's might be attainable. But I'm getting the 14's online.
Am I still being unrealistic?
I don't think you know what these sizes look like.
And honestly - I don't think your weight is going to be your main problem. I think your attitude is.
I think if you're in you're 20's you are probably correct. But in your 40's I don't think 185 is such an awful weight to be. It is probably right where you want or need to be.
I doubt that your optimal "in shape" weight is more than 10 lbs higher now that it was when you were in your 20's. Look at it this way, if you were doing distance running and not weight lifting, you'd probably weigh 160-165. You wouldn't be 185!
I felt like I could have helped more than I did in my last comment. There is the physical and the metaphysical. You know who you are on the inside, however, often that gets lost in translation, and our physical being doesn't represent that. Perhaps you need to start with yourself. Get in better shape and become the person who gets the above average girl.
Work out six days a week. I work from home, so I work out twice a day. Most cant, but if you can that is ideal. my routine...
3 days on 1 off, 3 exercises per muscle group (ex : chest) 3 sets of 8 - 12 reps.
D1 : chest, biceps
D2 : Shoulders, Legs
D3 : Back, Triceps
D4 : Rest
Cardio every afternoon minus 1 day a week. 1 day a week HIIT (high intensity interval training)
If this is to much for you back off and split D1 - D3 into monday, wednesday, and friday splits.
I don't think you guys might completely understand where I'm coming from. I'm not looking for the Size 4's, but I think the 8's or 10's might be attainable. But I'm getting the 14's online.
Am I still being unrealistic?
I am a size 8 now (6 in in the summer) and I would never date a man as fat as you.
Yes, the OP is calling the kettle black. I will add though, that females online are also a B team in aggregate, meaning they tend to be overweight too, and they tend to prefer to message guys who are physically at an entirely different fitness level than they are.
Online dating is concessionary by design. Work, school and social circles. Those are the three pillars of mainstream dating. Anything outside that is concessionary. Life ain't fair, but it is a choice.
Many females on line do the same thing. I used to date a woman who did some plus sized modeling and she wouldn't date oversized guys either. I confronted her on it and she said she knew she was being a hypocrit but it was what it was.
Do not go with this diet. There are plenty of sharks in the sea, especially this one. The proper diet is available at your local grocery market. With that and proper exercise you don't need any of this expensive gimmicks.
Agreed
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