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Many of you have read my past two threads related to the discussion of my unrequited love in high school. I received many intriguing thoughts, ideas, and suggestions. One such idea was that I was rejected due to my ethnic background (I am part Hispanic). Another poster suggested that perhaps I was a; “1 on her scale”, meaning of course that she might find me unattractive.
These ideas got me thinking, and a question came into my mind. I would like to ask all here whether they think it is truly fair for a women (or girl) to reject a man (or boy) due to his outward appearance? Remember of course that most women, who are guilty of this, make a decision within a minute of meeting a man. They disregard any thought of perhaps giving the guy a chance or possibly getting to know him better. The outward appearance is the deciding factor for many interested in a relationship with a person.
What do you think? Please answer honestly. I will admit this question is related to my previous threads, but please be considerate of the fact that I’m a high school student trying to make sense of my situation. From reading other threads here, many members have also stated their opinion that women are notorious for making a snap appraisal of a man based on his appearance.
I am curious to see what others have to say. All opinions are welcome.
Thank you very much.
Best,
JW
I think it's natural to want to be physically attracted to the person you're with. It's not a case of fair or unfair. I know it *feels* unfair but if you turn it around, think about a girl you find unattractive and whether or not you're a bad person for not going out with her. If that makes sense.
Romantic relationships do have attraction as part of the mix. Different people are attracted to different things but you do need that attraction. Otherwise it's a friendship.
Is it "fair"? I don't think that's the right question. So, she should accept you just as you are, even if she isn't attracted to you? The world does not work that way. The initial attraction is very important. Of course, you could always try to be friends first and maybe just maybe she might fall in love with your personality, but most people already know what they like and don't like.
It doesn't make any difference it it's fair or not. It's the reality of the situation. A person can reject another for whatever reason they want. There is nothing you can do to force them to change their mind.
It is what it is, and yes, people will reject others based on only a few specific things at times. Everyone has something which is a deal breaker (although the "depth" of that thing may vary greatly from individual to individual).
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