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All great advice. Thank you. I guess I just needed affirmation that I am not the only A-hole in the equation. We do have an 'open' relationship at this point....I guess I was just upset that she, after three years...thought so little of me and our plans that she would try to find a better plan 'a'.
Don't be weak, go and be "open" with other chicks and give her a little cold shoulder. I bet she'll ask to be exclusive...but even then, I'd leave her alone if you're wise.
I would move on. Sounds like you two had a great date planned! What kind of person would do something like that? A selfish one so unless you like lap dog status,drop her
Your plan sounded great you won't have a problem finding a new girl.
Now you know that any time she gets a better offer, you're out, regardless if she has agreed on an evening with you - being just lip service. You just have to decide if you're OK with that. Do you have WELCOME printed across your forehead?
Does she know that you consider her your girlfriend? This is a mutual relationship?
If yes, than she is wrong period. Move on, she doesn't respect you, and she is treating you like plan "b" not cool at all.
hm... this sounds like more of a FWB situation than an "open relationship". If there's a difference. Sounds like the gf is using the OP as a FWB, while the OP thinks it's something more...
..and that I am the only one at fault here, for being nosy. I feel like it WAS a mistake to look at the message, however am still very hurt that she was TRYING to stand me up. Am I wrong for being upset????
Yes, you were wrong, and are wrong for being upset. But you should also be happy to discover the shallowness of a person you might've gotten much closer to -- or at least thought so.
Perhaps it is time to widen your circle of friends.
I made a mistake and read a text message on a girl I have been seeing for three years, phone. We had made plans to spend the evening together at a hotel that night. Dinner, dancing, etc. While out that night, she asked me to use her phone to call a cab. I got nosy and looked at the text message screen while on hold. I came across a text message from her, to another guy. She sent it 3 hours after we had made plans, asking another guy to hang out that same night. I was VERY upset, still am. She says, she did nothing wrong because the other guy didn't respond and she didn't cancel on me....and that I am the only one at fault here, for being nosy. I feel like it WAS a mistake to look at the message, however am still very hurt that she was TRYING to stand me up. Am I wrong for being upset????
Let's get something straight Papi, you didn't look at the text by mistake. You wanted to be in your girls business and as a result got your feelings hurt. You are dead wrong for reading her phone but atleast you know this girl isn't as serious with you as you think. She has a back-up just in case you fail. Don't worry about it though, most girls do.
While you definitely shouldn't snoop and read your partners email, text messages, etc... If you're in an open relationship or poly situation, you DEFINITELY shouldn't read their emails or texts. That's just asking for a world of hurt.
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