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Although most women will deny what I'm about to say, I'm here to tell you that what I say is absolutely true, in most cases.
From personal experience and reading other men's testimonies, it has become clear to me that ignoring women, especially if they're attractive, will often make them interested in you. Now, by ignore I don't mean that if a woman were to come up to you to start a conversation you should walk away and refuse to talk to her. I'm talking about ignoring her beauty, having a lack of interest, etc. I personally don't ignore women to get their attention, I've just given up on relationships, but whenever women find out that I've decided to stay single and that I'm not fazed by their beauty, they seem to come after me. I'll give some examples:
I've recently joined a dating and friendship site. I've made it clear on my profile that I'm only looking for friendships and that I've given up on women and don't even have one night stands. Since then I've had quite a few women contact me, and one of them, who just so happens to live in my local area, is eager for us to meet up to have a walk together. However, in the past when I've emailed women, they have usually ignored me or told me to go away.
Many times in the past when I've ignored a hot woman, whether in the street, on the bus, or even in the job centre, I've noticed that they often try to get my attention. They will often start moving around in front of me and keep turning their head to see if I am looking at them. Or they might come up to me and ask me for directions or what time it is, etc. In the past women have also come after me more after I turned them down, but if I ever chased after a woman it would make them back off.
Women don't want the secret getting out. Most women love attention. There was a man who once said he knows a woman who would dress up and go out to pubs and clubs just for the pleasure of turning men down and telling them to sling their hook. Apparently it gave her a big ego boost. If every man on the planet, or even 70% of them, gave women no attention and refused to chase after them, women would start chasing the men. Most attractive women know that men are ten a penny. The only power women have is the power that men allow them to have. But men have become so weak that they are allowing women to rule the world.
I usually never approach hot women. I'm too shy and they're better than me.
Then there is this ONE guy, he looks okay, but he is more interested in talking to the other guys as in talking to you. You think "Why doesn't he want me? What is wrong with me?" and you naturally get interested.
So you either do nothing and wonder all evening and then question your friend who that is and you want to go out with them again and try to get him interested in you.
Or you go over right away, start a conversation with him. He is friendly but not flirty. That makes you wonder even more and you try to get him interested in you.
I'm neither that dysfunctional, nor that insecure.
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I think most women with their heads on straight would just assume you're either taken, not interested, or gay and move on accordingly.
Ignoring women when deep down you want them in hopes of baiting them into talking to you is just weak manipulation at best. For the majority of women, they just prefer men who are confident, comfortable in their skin and don't take life so personally.
If I want to ask someone out, I'll do it upfront, straightforward, and with bravado; damn the outcome or her reaction. I refuse to play little mind games or feign disinterest in hopes of "being different than most guys"
Truth be told, I'd rather be a "typical desperate moron" who actually gets some lady action than be the "I'm too cool for you" phony guy driving home alone every Friday night.
Why would a woman who has other options be interested in a guy who's either actively ignoring her or too anxious to talk to her?
Attractive women go for attractive men in general. Keep in mind, the shy guy is less likely to cheat so he would most likely be a keeper by default.
What other options? The guy's in the crowd who are after her are less attractive than that one very attractive guy? You don't think that very attractive guy has options? That one guy could be very wealthy also.
Idk about "steal" her, as that implies ownership and that was done away with in 1863. However there's very few attractive females out in the world who don't have at least one guy following her around with stars in his eyes. He might be a shy "friend-zoned" type, somebody she works with, or a bf who's on the way out (wether he knows/likes it or not) but most likely you're going to **** somebody off by dating her. Those guys aren't what she wants though or she wouldn't reciprocate your advances , so **** them, don't be shy
Either they're in a relationship, messing around with a dude on the side,or in the initial dating phase.
I've never seen an attractive female who isn't doing at least one of these 3 things with a guy. Heck, I can say the same thing for almost all the above average women I've seen /known.
Attractive women go for attractive men in general. Keep in mind, the shy guy is less likely to cheat so he would most likely be a keeper by default.
What other options? The guy's in the crowd who are after her are less attractive than that one very attractive guy? You don't think that very attractive guy has options? That one guy could be very wealthy also.
And the shy guy could also have his self esteem boosted by having a woman interested in him and then cheat because someone better comes along and he has the confidence to go after what he REALLY wants.
At least, that's what happened with my ex. I'm wary of shy guys now.
Keep in mind, the shy guy is less likely to cheat so he would most likely be a keeper by default.
That's what I think, too.
I only was with one cheater so far - he was the guy who was flirting with me right away (and with everybody else, I just didn't know).
None of the shy, less attractive or ignoring guys I ever picked, was a cheater.
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