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Dozens? No, not that much for me. It's happened a few times. Somewhere between the 2nd-5th date. I've seen the guy across the room and got butterflies in my stomach. Had to grab onto something because it leaves me a little dizzy. If that happened to me dozens of times, I'd be in trouble.
Not at all. I see the "butterflies" as an indication of extreme attraction, but I always use rational thinking to evaluate how compatible we are. If the compatibility isn't there, I'll walk despite the butterflies. In fact, the stronger the butterfly feeling, the greater the need to examine things carefully to be sure my decisions have a good outcome.
Funny enough, I don't get them anymore. When I was in my early 20s, they were a given. The dude I refer to here as the "love of my life so far" was the last guy to give them to me. On our first date, I was literally trembling.
It hasn't happened since, but for the love of all that's holy, don't ever tell him that - he'll just brag that he "ruined" me for any other man, the cocky bastard. LOL.
Truth is, I think I just grew out of it. I still get giddy around guys that I like, but since I've got so many other things in my life that make me happy, I don't really feel that all that much is hanging in the balance. When I fell in love with my ex, I was in a very deep pit and he was the only bright spot. There was so much riding on that first date with him, it was ridiculous - I had not connected with anyone to that degree in so long.
But really, i think this is something that is different for everyone. Physiological reactions vary an awful lot from person to person. I tend to trust my gut, but butterflies don't really indicate anything more than a strong initial attraction.
Hmm, more than once but quite rare. I was pleased to find that they don't go away with age and I still get them months later with the man I'm dating now.
I don't find that they're a requirement exactly and yet complete absence means to me that the sexual attraction won't last.
The last time was when I signed the divorce papers allowing that moth to fly away far away.
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