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Ask her to see her OBGYN and find out if there's anything wrong with her medically. Offer to go with her to lend her some support.
This.
Support. I couldn't tell you how many lady friends of mine felt completely unloved and unappreciated by their SOs and their sex drive basically shut down. I know mine did after months of doing ALL the household chores while working full time and going to school full time while my ex just sat around working part time and playing video games all day/night. I was exhausted, depressed and just not interested.
So, talk to her...ask her if there's something you could do to help but don't emphasize the lack of sex, make sure you're focusing on HER. If you are basically only helping her to get laid, she may come to resent it.
sounds like you have a keeper there- you guys get along so well,,,she sounds like a good woman,,,
i think you've got some good advice so far, it could be a medical issue, a psych issue,
if its difficult for you....it's probly been more difficult for her, talk to her about it...be patient with her
in the meantime, if you get invited to any weddings,,,,stay away from the wedding cake.
You said that she has never been affectionate and you are. I think you just have mismatched sex drives and intimacy levels. I don't think there is anything you can do about this especially since you've already talked with her about it to no avail. You either have to accept it or breakup with her.
My girlfriend and I have been together for 8 months now. Things between us are amazing in just about every way except in the bedroom. We have more in common than i've ever had with a woman before and are always playing and just having a good time. When we travel or just go out and explore we always have a good time. She has never been a very affectionate person and I am very very affectionate but up until recently we've always had GREAT sex and OFTEN (at least 4 times a week). Granted, 4 times a week is probably pretty rare in relationships that are out of their "honeymoon" phase but now its down to once or MAYBE twice a week which kills me. When we do have sex I feel like I have to ask her to do it and she doesn't seem to really be "there" during any more. Oral sex simply does not happen, at least for me. I've talked to her about it and she said that she'd "try harder" which has not happened. I miss that part of our relationship and feeling wanted like that is important to me and helps me to feel secure and happy in relationships. I don't know what to do. Any advice or just your thoughts would be greatly appreciated.
Thank you again.
AJ
You guys are not right for each other. Maybe, you should be friends since you enjoy each others company. As far as boyfriend/girlfriend, i don't believe you will be happy in this relationship.
You said that she has never been affectionate and you are. I think you just have mismatched sex drives and intimacy levels. I don't think there is anything you can do about this especially since you've already talked with her about it to no avail. You either have to accept it or breakup with her.
Put her on the road and get another one...maybe even 2 or 3. Heck, you're 29, you ought to be swimming in leg. Back in my day they called it a black book, now it's a contact list, I believe.
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