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If someone is getting rejected for being religious and not wanting children (or whatever else)should then pursue someone the same way. Too many people get rejected for those reasons and then wonder why, well duh go for someone like them. In the case of an older man being rejected by younger women that should be his sign that he is unrealistic and should date someone his age. It's not the same thing as a woman my age rejecting a man much older because we aren't the same. Sure he can continue to pursue younger women but if he is failing that means he has nothing to offer these women.
Yes, it could mean that -- which means this is a case of logic, not "fairness v. unfairness" or what one "should" do in order to be fair.
It's all about preferences. You have them. Just because yours aren't necessarily age-related (and actually, they are, you've said you don't want to date a much older man) doesn't mean you're being "more fair."
You really need to understand this. If a man rejects you based on age -- or on beliefs, lifestyle or anything else -- he does still have that right. Just like you do.
If it doesn't work for him, well then, that's his problem. A lot of men learn they can't actually get the young hotties. But do you really want those particular men? The ones who don't really want you, so they're just going for you because there's nobody of their type around? No matter how you slice it, you're not missing opportunities by not being asked out by such men. So it's not a case of fairness at all.
You wouldn't want them even if they did want you, so it's a wash.
Yes, it could mean that -- which means this is a case of logic, not "fairness v. unfairness" or what one "should" do in order to be fair.
It's all about preferences. You have them. Just because yours aren't necessarily age-related (and actually, they are, you've said you don't want to date a much older man) doesn't mean you're being "more fair."
You really need to understand this. If a man rejects you based on age -- or on beliefs, lifestyle or anything else -- he does still have that right. Just like you do.
If it doesn't work for him, well then, that's his problem. A lot of men learn they can't actually get the young hotties. But do you really want those particular men? The ones who don't really want you, so they're just going for you because there's nobody of their type around? No matter how you slice it, you're not missing opportunities by not being asked out by such men. So it's not a case of fairness at all.
You wouldn't want them even if they did want you, so it's a wash.
True, I really wouldn't want a man who just chose me because no one else was around.
An older man who gets rejected based on age should date someone his age.
Yes, they can obviously only date the ones who don't reject them, just as you can only date the ones who don't reject you. It still sucks being rejected, as you've pointed out.
On another thread it was noted that as a national average, couples are only two years apart.
Just wanted to add that here because I didn't know it, personally. I mean yes, most people I know who are married are pretty close in age; the farther-apart ones are the exception rather than the rule. But that's just my experience. Apparently, however, it does bear out for the average couple.
No, there is no difference. If what you say above is true, then it should also be true that if you get rejected for being religious and not wanting children, then you should date people who aren't religious and want children.
There is NO difference in which criteria a person rejects a person on. And neither scenario is either fair or unfair.
Exactly. Well said.
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Originally Posted by JerZ
Yes, it could mean that -- which means this is a case of logic, not "fairness v. unfairness" or what one "should" do in order to be fair.
It's all about preferences. You have them. Just because yours aren't necessarily age-related (and actually, they are, you've said you don't want to date a much older man) doesn't mean you're being "more fair."
You really need to understand this. If a man rejects you based on age -- or on beliefs, lifestyle or anything else -- he does still have that right. Just like you do.
If it doesn't work for him, well then, that's his problem. A lot of men learn they can't actually get the young hotties. But do you really want those particular men? The ones who don't really want you, so they're just going for you because there's nobody of their type around? No matter how you slice it, you're not missing opportunities by not being asked out by such men. So it's not a case of fairness at all.
You wouldn't want them even if they did want you, so it's a wash.
This, too. Thank you for bringing some sanity here.
Aren't you the one who said you're only with your boyfriend until somebody better comes along?
Yes but I really don't mean it. He's been annoying me lately but that's another topic. However yes in the past if someone else was around I doubt I would have given him the time of day and that's being honest.
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